[athikers]

After a missed visit last spring, my daughter saw her birth mom this week. It went really well again, birth mom was very appropriate and good with Pixie.

Birth dad did not show up, which makes me sad. I think we are done with visits with bdad as this is two he has missed now. We will still send letters and work to keep the door open if Pixie wants to meet him when she's older. But, for me he's either in or his out when it comes to face-to-face meetings and it would seem he's out, so I'd like to end things before she knows any differently.

[CaddoRose]

Good to hear the visit went well. I was a little nervous about our first post TPR/adoption visit. It was 4 months after TPR. WE have no contact with the bio Dad either because he got really angry at BioMom when he found out she had relinquished. It seems weird since he had already voluntarily relinquished 6 months earlier. We are considering sending him pics and updates, but as of now, have had no contact at all.

[athikers]

I would encourage you to send the pics and updates... in my view its much easier to keep the door a LITTLE open then to try to re-establish contact when the child is older. Plus, then it shows them that all their parents wanted to work together for them, I think that's good.