[SunshinesMommy]

My SO and I just placed our son Friday, we've been handling it as best we can, the ups and the downs. But today has been a pretty rough day for both of us and I was thinking about calling the agency in the morning. The lady from the agency highly encouraged us to call here and set up an appointment to check in with her as soon as we were ready, but it's been two days. I feel like calling tomorrow would be akward in a way that I can't really describe, but I feel like it would be helpful.

Do you think it would be too soon to call her? I have so much to ask her, mostly about J, but I don't want her to think I'm being pushy or intruding.

[Fatcat]

She said you could call and she didn't specify a time. You need to call to feel better, so call.

[thanksgivingmom]

Please call.

Don't be afraid to reach out to her. I waited a ridiculously long time to ask what Cupcake's NAME even was! Looking back, I WISH I had been more assertive early on!!!

(Based on dates and initials I'm thinking you're my email buddy If you are, you can always email me too - if you're not, well, you can email too! haha )

[SunshinesMommy]

I think I am going to call. When I asked my SO what he thought about it his first response was to call, but a little bit later he said that it was probably too soon. I'm going to go with his first answer before he had time to actually think about it. He's a very sit down and think about stuff kinn've guy, so I'm thinking that the yes was more of how he actually felt rather than what he thinks.

(TG: Yep, that would be me. )

[thanksgivingmom]

Well, welcome here then and best of luck with your call!

We're here for you when you need too

[SunshinesMommy]

I tried to call today, but she wasn't in her office. I can't help but think that maybe she was with J and his aparents, if she was hopefully when I try and call tomorrow I'll be able to get some news about how he's doing.

[SunshinesMommy]

Sorry for the double post, but I wanted to post an update on the phone call situation.

I got a hold of K, from the agency, this morning and she was excited to hear from me. I was really anxious making the call, but as I started to ask her questions and talk to her I started to feel better. J is doing great and his aparents, while still adjusting to everything are doing good as well. They've started to tell to him the story of how he was adopted even though he's only a week old. Which makes me super happy. I've read so much about adoptees that don't find out till they're much older or are never even told at all, so knowing that even from so early on that they're so open to him knowing gives me this great sense of peace. They're also going to keep his name and start getting pictures together for our first update (which I'm not expecting too soon. Not that I wouldn't want them as soon as possible, but I know how crazy everything must be for them right now with a new baby).

When I got off the phone I wanted to cry. Not because I'm depressed about having to find out how my baby's first week is going from someone else, but because of how happy I am that everything is going so well. Having cried so much over the past week (and even before that) because of so many different things, I never expected to cry because I was happy about our adoption. It's just so weird.

[sunshinemomma]

Hugs to you.........I am glad that you got a bit of an update and are able to cry because you are happy with the way things are going. A little peace of mind during a painful time

[louisebobby]

If you have an open adoption, this is definitely not too soon to check in.

[thanksgivingmom]

Glad to see this updates SunshinesMommy!!!

And so glad they chose to keep his name as well

[SunshinesMommy]

Originally Posted by thanksgivingmom

Glad to see this updates SunshinesMommy!!!

And so glad they chose to keep his name as well

The aparents don't know for sure yet if they're going to keep his name as his first or middle (with the name they're considering I think it J would work better as his first, it just has a better ring to it), but it'll be there.