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Originally Posted By Leslie

I am adoptive mother, I perfer to have openness in a adoption. Because, I know some one that has a close totally adoption, and I see what he is going though trying to find out who he is. This person is a very sad person . He did find out that his mother was very educated, and that she had died. For his father he has no information at all. He, the adoptee is 47 years old and he has cancer. I have seen his hurt. I have known this person for over 25 years. I have and open adoption for my daugher this way I will always beable to find out things that I need to know and she will have the answers for her question. Sure sometimes its hard on the adoptive parents sharing but, I am doing this for my daughter . Not me. I love my daughter With all my heart. I will do what it takes for her happiness. I hope that next time we adopt . I hope the baby's Birthparents will want some degree of openness in that adoption plan.

Leslie

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Originally Posted By I wish...

I wish my daughters bmom would like a little more open. We have a semi open to open except she has not seen her. She stopped calling last August and when I called her her friend told me she has moved and she doesn't know where she is now. We promised to always keep in touch but I guess she's decided different for some reason. It's sad to me.

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Originally Posted By Opposite side

I have a semi-open adoption and sometimes I would love for it to be more open. Letters and pictures are sent through the attorney. I would love to see my child again but I still don't know how good that is for him for me to be in and out of his life. At this point he is still young so it is hard to tell how much contact he would want to have, but I want to be there to answer any questions that he has.

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Originally Posted By Leslie

She may come back. Just keep the line of commucation open when she does. Our cw told sometime this happens when the birthmom stops commucation. She may be taking some time for herself to think .