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Originally Posted By Adoptive Single Mom

I have been reading the posts here and feel sad because I read several times that the birthmoms placed their child for adoption because they wanted them in a two parent family. My situation is one where I was a waiting foster/adopt mother thinking I would be placed with an older child. Instead, to my great delight, a healthy newborn baby boy was placed with me because the birthmom did not make a plan for him prior to birth. I couldn't have been happier to have him in my life. Birthmom went to the hospital, gave birth and told the hospital she was giving him up for adoption. She didn't want to see him and didn't. He was placed in foster care, with me, because she did not have a plan, otherwise, he would have been placed with a waiting infant adopt family. She never asked about him and requested no contact. She has a 5 year old daughter already. I know who and where they are and have been conflicted about it all. I feel sad that it happened the way it did and that she never asked about him or wants contact. The counselors said they felt she was in denial. She is 28 years old and divorced. I feel guilty that I am a single mom sometimes, especially after reading some of these posts. My son is 16 months old now and still as happy and healthy as ever. He has grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousings that adore him and love spending time with him. I have never been happier in my life.

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Originally Posted By Michelle V

Congratulations!! I don't think you should feel guilty at all. The birthmothers who want their children in two parent families have that right but you also have the right to be a parent. As long as the birthmom wasn't deceived in any way then you shouldn't feel guilty about anything. Take care of your child and yourself and I wish you the best!! sincerely, michelle v

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Originally Posted By jp

dont feel guilty,u r obviously ready to parent.congrats! maybe birthmom will want contact later.

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Originally Posted By birthmom Jamie

I think that it's great for you to have a child.I think that since you have strong support from your extended family wich it sounds like you have then things will be fine.Grand parents are a special gift for children.I hope that you had a great first halloween with your little one.