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Originally Posted By Eva

My husband & I are looking to adopt a 9 yr old girl who has a severe emotional disability. She has severe temper tantrums & has screamed so much that she has caused damage to her vocal cords, but not permanent. We have 4 boys, aged, 16, 13 & 10 yr old twins. We would love to give this child the love & security that she is so deserving of, and yet,we are both apprehensive and anxious. This is our first adoption. I would appreciate anyone giving me some input about this situation. Thank You!

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Originally Posted By teresa

pray pray pray
god will lead you in the right direction
this child has been introduced into your life for a reason
be strong and prepared before you do anything..she doesn't need any more trama
god be with you and your family

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Originally Posted By Michael

Our Son was also labeled Severe. We have had our share of issues and it has been very difficult. But the severity was over played in the documents. The first couple of months were hell. But slowly the worst of the behavior tapered off. It has been 8 months now and I feel that most of his issues have dissipated as he has settled into our home. But this is only one story, there are others. Don't let your desire to help cause you to take on challenges you are not prepared for. It is two of us helping one. I can't imagine dealing with him and all of his needs plus four other children. You will do more harm if you take a child and are not prepared to deal with the emotional drain on you and the rest of your family. Make sure you are ready for her sake. Say No, again for her sake if you have any doubt. The hardest thing we ever did was to say no to a child in need. But looking back I know that I made the right decision.
Good luck,
Michael