[lastpaige]

Sometimes when you adopt older children, they may be physically 8 but are developmentally 3 or 4. This is the case with one of our new sons.

Due to neglect in his past, and current behaviours, we are taking our son back to about 3 years old. I'd like to research this more, but don't know if this has a name - I don't know what to put into the search engines.

Any ideas?
Thanks for any help!

[mrsred]

am not entirely sure, but seems you want to regress... so maybe try regression or regressive therapy?

[lastpaige]

Thank you - I'll try it!

[lastpaige]

Regressive Therapy searches led me to some hypnotic something or other.

But - I did stumble onto Cumulative Cognitive Deficit, which (so far) is exactly what we've been experiencing.

Thank you!

[PabloandCarlosMama]

I am familiar with what you are posting about. Here is a website that has books and CDs on parenting adopted children according to their emotional age in terms of building attachment. The author is Holly Van Gulden, and her suggestions have been very helpful to me since I brought my children home from Guatemala last year.

I've read the Dance of Attachment book, and Real Parents, Real Children. The second book reads like a textbook, but it is very helpful in pinpointing where children are in the stages of development.

Dance of Attachment Home

I don't know all the psychological terms, but hopefully this helps you.

[MomwithFive]

Originally Posted by PabloandCarlosMama

I am familiar with what you are posting about. Here is a website that has books and CDs on parenting adopted children according to their emotional age in terms of building attachment. The author is Holly Van Gulden, and her suggestions have been very helpful to me since I brought my children home from Guatemala last year.

I've read the Dance of Attachment book, and Real Parents, Real Children. The second book reads like a textbook, but it is very helpful in pinpointing where children are in the stages of development.

Dance of Attachment Home

I don't know all the psychological terms, but hopefully this helps you.

I'll have to check this out as our daughter is 7 but emotionally about 3 yrs. old.