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Originally Posted By Ed

Hi,

My wife and I have just begun exploring adoption and are researching different areas. One of which is adoption of domestic toddlers. (between 1 and 3 years old) We have friends who have adopted internationally and those who have adopted infants. Unfortnately, no toddlers.

We were curious about the procedure involving adoption of the older children. (toddlers). Is it similiar to infants? different? do they come from foster homes or are birth parents still involved? etc.

Any information on this topic is greatly appreciated.

Please feel free to email it to me at edmc12@yahoo.com

Thanks,

Ed
edmc12@yahoo.com

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Originally Posted By stacys

Adopting internationally have some of its perks and I must warn you that this information is only regarding some countries not all! From the agency I've been reading up on, birth parents are very seldomly involved when adopting internationally. Some countries require the parents to sign rights waiver document that indicate they give up the rights of the child-even immediately not too long after birth! Also when in the court process, in some countries like Bulgaria, parents who wanted to reclaim their child(ren) must prove to the court that they have the necessary resources to provide for the child. As far as foster care homes, check with each independent agency. Hope this help!

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Originally Posted By mcraejl

Some advise I might give from a toddler who was adopted. If you adopt a toddler make sure the toddler knows that it is not their fault. Make sure they know that they are not bad. Don't ever use phrases like your birthmother was a good person because if the birthmother is a good to a child then the child often thinks they are bad. Constantly remind them that they are loved.
My husband and I are planning to adopt but since I was a toddler we are not sure if we want to adopt a toddler or baby. We would like to adopt a sibling set though.

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Originally Posted By Kim

Ed,
My husband & I are in the prosess of adopting an older girl between the age of 3-7 through Dept. of Social Services Ma. First off it`s free, but a long process of mapp training classes and being home studied. The child will be coming from the foster care system and will most likely have some form of problems. But I feel if you can have a big enough heart and lots of stability and love the paybacks would be so much greater than any problems she might have. So GOOD LUCK.
Kim Kimc625@hotmail.com