[jgs]

I am a avid reader of these sites but this is my first post. We are looking at a teenage girl for adoption and I was wondering if anyone ever had concerns about adopting a teenage girl with a teenage son and husband in the house. My biggest fear (even though she does not have a sexual abuse history) that she will acuse my guys of sexual abuse out of anger or something. I think I have heard to many "bad" girl adoption stories but she looks like she will be a fit for us. This is just a fear that I have with adopting older girls.

Has anyone else had this concern and if yes, what did you do about it? Did you proceed or not with the adoption?
I would like to hear good and bad stories.

[Dr. Art]

You should read her history and ALL her previous evaluations and reports from previous foster homes. If this has not been an issue in the past, it is not likely to be one now. A bigger issue for you to consider is the extent of therapeutic parenting that she will require (most likely A LOT!) and your ability to do this. You might want to take a look at:
Creating Capacity for Attachment edited by Arthur Becker-Weidman, Ph.D., & Deborah Shell, Wood 'N' Barnes, OK: 2005.
and
Building the Bonds of Attachment, Daniel Hughes, Ph.D., Guilford Press, NY: 1999.

regards

[Faith65]

Goodmorning!

We have had a 13 year old placed with us snice April of this year and moving forward with adopting her! We have not had any behaviors or threats by her in that area. It just DH and I but all is well and they have a great father daughter relationship. FD and I are building a great relationship too. We are working with a super attachment theraphy DR too which is a big plus.

Good Luck and keep us posted