[Eveli]

I have recently gotten married and the thought of starting my own family is very threatening knowing so little about my true history. Becoming pregnant is a huge fear for me, but I don't want to deny myself the wonder of becoming a parent either. Recent deaths in my adoptive family have also made me realize I would like to contact my biological family. So if anyone has any information, here's a rundown:

BD: 9/3/83
Toledo, OH, St. Vincent Hospital
Grandmother and other family may have attended East Toledo Baptist Church
Possible last name = Kenny (mother or father - not sure)

And if you are an adoptee that has dealt with this issue, I would love to get some advice on how to cope with my fear. I don't want to be 55 and full of regrets.

[Willie_5566]

Eveli-

I am a male adoptee which is not the same as being a female and having kids. I still have the same concerns as I now have two kids. I too am worried about my medical history and what could happen to me or them.

That said-Do not wait to have kids because of this one issue. This is just my opinion but as a father of two I can tell you that I could not imagine not having my two little girls. As adoptees we got the shaft. We had no say in what hapened and we were born in a state that does not believe in giving us rights.

While we cannot control the past, we can control the future-unless ofcourse it is getting our records unsealed. Rolling eyes. Do not let your adoption keep you from something you really want. That would make your situation even more tragic.

Rest assured that the technology available at hospitals today is very advanced. They will be able to monitor everything and make sure that all is well with you and baby. I was amazed at all the things they could do during my wifes pregnancy. That was over 5 years ago. I am sure it is even better now.

I hope you consider moving forward with your life. Continue to try to locate you birth mom but do not let that stop you from having the family you want.

Good luck.