[CLM76]

My husband wants to adopt my daughter who is 9 almost 10 years old. He has been with us since she was 18 months old. Her bio father pays child support but is not on her birth certificate; does not see her but once a year and does not call. He has said once he would agree to my husband adopting her but I have not brought it up in a while.


Im wondering if I should get a lawyer for the proceedings or if it will be something I can do without one.


Also, my husbands child and mine; my son was born before we were married and bears my maiden name. Is it possible to just have his name changed to that of his dad's surname and my married name?


I'm very new to this and would appreciate any help you can give.

Much thanks!



--Connie

[DianeS]

If the child's father will willingly sign away his parental rights, you *may* be able to do the step-parent adoption without a lawyer. That depends on your laws and the availability of standard forms, both of which will vary by state.

Someone else may have better information for you, but a first step might be calling the courthouse and asking about forms for an uncontested step-parent adoption. They may be available that easily. Also do an internet search, and/or see if you can talk to a paralegal - often less expensive than a lawyer but just as good if all you need is a set of papers and filing instructions.

If the son you talk about is the son of you and the man you're married to, and you both agree to the name change, then that's simple too. Yes, it's just a standard name change. Forms are available for that, and you don't need a lawyer. Just be sure you notify everyone of the change - especially social security for a new card.

Good luck!