[teresa dillard]

MY ADOPTED DAUGHTER NEEDS SOME QUESTIONS ANSWERED. QUESTIONS THAT ONLY HER BIRTHMOTHER WILL BE ABLE TO ANSWER. BECAUSE SHE IS ONLY 15 IS WHY I AM LAUNCHING THIS SEARCH FOR HER. SHE TOLD ME THERE IS A VOID SHE FEELS, THERE IS NOTHING I WILL NOT DO TO HELP HER FILL THIS VOID. IT'S MY JOB AS HER MOTHER. SHE WAS BORN IN COLUMBUS OHIO ON 4-21-88, I BELIEVE SHE WAS BORN IN GRANT WEST HOSPITAL.
HER BIRTHMOTHER WAS 23 AND I BELIEVE WAS TRYING TO FINISH COLLEGE. HERE ARE SOME THINGS I WAS TOLD ABOUT HER. SHE HAD THE SUPPORT OF HER PARENTS AND MINISTER. I BELIEVE SHE COULD HAVE BEEN BAPTIST..BUT AM NOT SURE ABOUT THAT. I BELIEVE THAT HER PARENTS AND THE MINISTER WERE PRESENT AT THE HOSPITAL. SHE HAD AN EMERGENCY C SECION AFTER A LONG LABOR. WE USED GENTLE CARE ADOPTION AGENCY IN COLUMBUS OHIO. I KNOW THE BITHMOTHER HAD AT LEAST ONE SISTER. MY DAUGHTER HAS BASIC QUESTIONS AS TO NATIONALITY ETC., I AM SURE THERE ARE MANY MORE BUT SHE HAS THE RIGHT NOT TO SHARE THEM WITH ME. WE CORRESPONDED WITH THE BIRTHMOTHER THRU THE ADOPTION AGENCY FOR ALMOST THE FIRST YEAR. WE WERE LIVING IN COLUMBUS AT THE TIME OF THE ADOPTION.
I DESPERATLEY WANT TO HELP MY DAUGHTER GET HER QUESTIONS ANSWERED AND WE HAVE GONE OVER THE MANY DIFFERNT SCENARIOS THAT COULD HAPPEN ONCE WE LAUNCHED THIS SEARCH. AND SHE IS WILLING TO TAKE THE CHANCE, WHATEVER THE OUTCOME. THANKYOU.

[sspete]

As a bmom, I want to say thank you for putting your daughter's need of finding her bmother as of great importance!!! We need more amoms like you!!! Best of Luck in Your search!!! She is blessed to have you as her mom--My prayers are with all of you as you begin this journey!!! S Pete

[tracieinalaska]

Teresa - I was SO blessed by your attitude about helping your daughter. I am a birthmom who was contacted by my daughter's parents when my daughter was 14 (she just turned 15). They felt like she needed to meet me because she was struggling with identity issues and had lots of questions. We all had a reunion together last year...me, my husband and our two children, my birthdaughter, her parents and her adopted brother. It was WONDERFUL!! She (my birthdaughter) wrote a paper for school after she got home and said that she felt like we were the missing piece in her heart. I think that meeting us will help her be able to better go about the business of growing up without all of the questions.

Since we met, my daughter has written me only one letter. I, however, have committed to write to her once month regardless of her response. I know that she is at an age where she has a lot on her plate in just growing up. I am confident (most of the time ) that we will relate more as she grows older. In the meantime, my role is to consistently express her value, her worth and how loved she is by her entire birthfamily. She seems to be very proud of the letters and cards we send to her and is absorbing our love. Her mother and I have developed a WONDERFUL friendship. It is a joy for me to be able to hear so much about my daughter and her mom loves to talk to me because she says it helps her understand her daughter better. We talk once a week on the phone and every week we talk so long that my phone battery goes dead . Before we get off of the phone, we always take the time to pray together for our daughter together. Our relationship is truly a gift from God.

Anyway, I say all that to say that I pray that you are able to find your daughter's birthmom and to encourage you that it can be quite a blessing to everyone. There were some scary times for my daughter's mom...feeling a little insecure at times, but overall she says that she is just sad that we didn't do all of this years ago. The blessings have far outweighed the scaryness of it all.
God bless, Tracie.

[teresa dillard]

Thankyou, thankyou, thankyou.

[ballet_slippers]

I also want to add my thank you for your need to help your daughter, so many adoptive parents view their children as possessions and try to change who they are by deleting their heritage and genetic makeup out of their lives. It gives me hope when I see posts such as yours. Its great to know that there are some adoptive parents that do love their children unconditionally and so firm in their child love. THANK YOU FOR BEING YOU

[Sharon]

At the risk of being repetitive, I need to add my thanks to the others. I respect and admire you so much for doing this. I believe you are doing the right thing. If it is what your daughter needs, then it's wonderful she's got you there to support and help her.
You sound like a great lady and an awesome mom.
Regards,
~ Sharon

[Thelma Sisco]

I am an adult adoptee who has been reunited with her b-family
I was 39 when I found out my birth mom was dead and it was
devastating to me. There were many other issues I had to deal
with after finding my birth family that weren't that easy to handle
for me. Thank you for helping your adopted daughter search, I have only one problem with this and that is your daughter is only
15 years old. Is she really emotional secure and tough enough to handle what she may find out about her birth family? I believe you should wait until your adopted daughter is 18 years old and
then help her search.

[tattooartgirl]

I have just sent you a PM...not sure you are still looking as this is 2 years old=but hope you will contact me.

Barbe

[tattooartgirl]

Hi Teresa,

this sounds eerily like my situation..except my birth year was 87..

please contact me immediatly so I can put my own mind to rest..