[angelitte]

I have a 99% match on a bfamily and the adoptee made contact. Female denied that she was the bmom. Can anyone relate stories like this, this adult adoptee (in 40's) frequents the board. Thanks to all.

[southernpines]

first off, let me thank angelitte for her friendship and help in this matter. she is a true hero and will always walk in the light.
i have wondered about my mother for 41 years ( i am 47) and have actively searched for 30 years. during this time i have come to realize that an adoptee has certain rights. chief among these is the right to know.
this is not a selfish right as the mundanes ( those who grew up in a normal family) would have you believe. this right is natural and normal, no different than anyone else's rights. NEVER allow anyone to tell you any different.
however, much like the mundanes, we DO NOT have the right for a normal loving relationship with our parents if they do not desire that. in our cases, this manifests itself in rejection and denial. in the case of mundanes, it becomes abuse or infanticide. so you can see that if you look at reality in this perspective, we actually have a better deal than them.
i don't write this to discourage, only to help those of us whose search is over, yet still are unfullfilled.
life goes on... find that curious peace which comes of truth... and remember that if your parents reject you again, they are simply denying themselves of knowing YOU.
for myself... the search is over... yet continues. my mother will be given permanent contact info in the hope that things may be different tomorrow.

[maggiez]

hi ang curious did you find her on here? and is that your info dont match or she in complete denial?