[trvl_girl]

Ok, so I'm 6 mths. pregnant, due in October with a little girl. I have a 4 yr. old son, my niece 16 and nephew 12.

I have been placed with an Adorable 18 mth. old girl whom we all love and most likely, she will be adoptable. Do I keep her and hope for the best or .........

What do I do? What would you do?

I'm so confused and don't know what to do.

Please help!!!!!

[lovemy6]

Why would you not keep her? I think I'm missing something.

[trvl_girl]

My main concern and fear is.... Since she "may" become adoptable (It's looking that way) and I have a 4 yr. old son and am due with a little girl in October.... If you were faced with the possibility of falling in love with her and they ask me to adopt her, am I nuts having a 4 yr old, 18 mth old and newborn?

I'm also afraid, will I be depriving my son and newborn by adding another to the family? My son has been an only child (my niece and nephew are here too) and soon to be big brother, is it okay or right to add another in the mix? Will it confuse or hurt him in the long run?

I'm sure I'm getting way ahead of myself, just afraid a bit.

[trvl_girl]

Oh, forgot to mention, am 6 mths. pregnant and started to have some complications last evening. My Dr. advised I should be doing bed rest.

I want her to stay, as she is so precious and we love her already.

I guess my main question was, if you were in my shoes, with an 18 mth. old and a baby due in October, would you consider adopting at the same time?

Heck, I'm pregnant and very emotional right now. Scared that I have this beautiful sweet little life, one on the way and already talk of "would I be willing to adopt".

That's alot to handle right now... Ugh.

Guess I'm more venting and not making sense. Sorry.

Just wanted to see if anyone has ever been in my shoes. Pregnant and due soon with a new fc that you adopted.

Again, sorry for being so scatter brained.

[chickie1221]

Take a deep breath. Nothing is written in stone yet. Bedrest means you'll be needing help for the next 3 - 4 months anyway, whether the adoption paperwork is in the works, or not.
With 3 children under 5, you'll be very busy for a couple of years, whether your FD is officially adopted or not. Either way, you will need to close your close your home to any additional placements right now. Look at it this way; if the adoption is finalized, you get DYFS out of your hair! Ahh, bliss! No record keeping or worrying that the house is messy!