[irelady10]

My foster son's birthparent agreed to an identified surrender to me today...I am so happy! They want to see the baby, though (they have not seen in since he was a few days old- they never carried through on visitation). I think this is an okay thing. What are other's opinions about this? They alse requested occasional visits/updates on the baby. I am very okay with updates; also, if it is in the baby's best interest, some visits. This would be up to me after I adopt him; NJ doesn't have open adoption. What are the views on adopted children knowing their birthparents? Is it confusing to them. Is it in their best interest? I think, now anyway, that his birth family is part of who he is, and I should honor this. They cannot parent him, but they love him and agreed to the surrender to ensure he stays in a stable home where he is very much loved. I would very much appreciate any views/feedback! Thanks