[tess113]

HI to everyone....sorry I have not contributed as much as I think we should have,and many thanks for advice given....

Anyway we have our first placement,of a FD...she is 6 and beautiful.She came last week,from previous foster home,(5 months)and is in what her SW calls pre adoptive stage,saying she wants for us to adopt her.(which we will)
All other family members have been eliminated,BF was interested 6 months ago,and is out of state,with pending warrants....they have not heard from him since then.birthmom,is in a lot of trouble,with just about everything,and is extremely uncooperative,and they want to speed this up as much as they can.All other relatives,are same scenario.
But I guess we will be in it for the long haul.

So she is suppose to have visitation today,if birthmom shows up,and SW would pick her up,and we were asked to come and get her after the visit.(hour and half drive)This is due to original girl who was to transport her both ways,is 9 months pregnant,and they are stuck.We agreed,but am now thinking,it may not be a good idea.The birthmom has been very uncooperative to the point,that SW needed a restraining order.She told us to call and park out back of building,and they would bring her out to us,after visit.But anything is possible,including the birthmom,seeing this,and maybe writing license plate down,and maybe have a friend in law enforcement,run the tags,and find out where we live,etc.I did tell her we were not really comfortable doing this,but agreed for the childs sake.

So,for this time,we are renting a vehicle, and will pick her up,only because we are trying to protect her,and ourselves.....are we being to paranoid?....
And is this an unusual request?


thanks christy

[vernellinnj]

I'd probably be overly cautious too. Are you paranoid? Maybe, but if it makes you feel more comfortable, so what.

They will ask you to do lots of things inc transporting....it's up to you to give the response that's right for you.

I've been a FP for 4 years..never transported.

[QueenEsther]

So what if you're being overly cautious - interference from birthmom once your FD gets to your house could make the transition harder on everyone. If renting a car gives you peace of mind, and you can afford it, why not?

Hope your placement goes well.

[tess113]

thanks....we just got back,and it all went well.....SW thought we were being to cautious,saying they have everyone under control......and this could not happen....

The ironic thing,is our FD,did not want to go,and she had to take off early from her craft/dance class....

thanks for the support
christy