[mommy4life64]

have a cousin who I've been trying to get since april (he was born in march). As soon as I found out about him I tried to get him. I was told that I would get him this month. Everything was going good until today. I called his social worker and she tells me now that the foster parents he's with want to adopt him and his older brother. They don't even know his older brother and he doesn't know them. I need to know what I should do. I've been fighting for this little boy since he was a month old. I don't want to give up on him. What should I do? Should I take them to court and fight for custody? I'm a single mother and the foster parent is married of course. I don't think that anything that is happening is fair. I need help fast

[Tammi5143]

Have you tried to reach out for the case worker's supervisor to voice your concerns? I don't really know enough about this to offer much advice. Have you had your home study done, was court notified of your intent?, etc., etc.

I would suggest going one step beyond and contact the supervisor and then go from there -

Please let us know outcome, and maybe additional comments will follow.

Good luck.

[RandomReality]

Try Legal Aid in your county. Look in the phone book or on the Internet.

[leenab]

I second Tammi. Go up the chain of command. I know from my experience biological family gets preference over foster parents even if those foster parents want to adopt, are married and can provide more stability.

Did you have a homestudy done? Liscenced? Meet the law guardian (he/she might be of help also)? You should not be ruled out soley because you're single and they're married.

Let us know how it goes.

Leena

[mom2GRLC]

I agree you need to make your desires to adopt him and his brother very clear to EVERYONE. Even if that means you need to hire your own attorney. In most cases the childs biological family gets priority but once the child has been with the foster parents for a period of time (6months to a year- depending on the state) the childs bonds with it's current caregiver usually begin to take priority over biology. So what ever you do...make it quick!!!