[ladyzee]

Hello everyone
It’s me Zee, I just wanted to give you an up date on what’s been going on.
Anyways I had bonding evaluation on March 28 and it was nothing the way I pictured it. No toys in Dr’s office and just a lot of question that I had to answer, the only bonding that she saw between my son and me was when she asked me to take him out the room to see how he would react, when he wasn’t in the room with me. Of course he cried every time. It was about an hour long. On the next day the casework took my son to have a bonding evaluation with his birthmother but from what the case worker told me “it didn’t go to well” So to make a long story short the casework supervisor told me on Friday last week that the DR recommended that he stay with me. So I’m very happy about that but it still up to the judge to decide what going to happen. Trial is schedule for next week and I’m scared to attend because before I just had to see the birthmother but now the casework tells me that the birthfather showed but for the last hearing claiming that he wants to take care of him ( my son) but mind you this man has not been in his life for the pass 22months. So I don’t know who this man is the last time the casework mention him she said he was incarcerated but I don’t know. Should I BE WORRY or am I over reacting?

[leenab]

Glad the bonding evaluation went well. That's so strange that there weren't toys in the office. Our sons evaluation was all about playing.

Hopefully the judge sees what the biodad is trying to do (just show up at the last minute) and tells him too little too late. But I have heard of some judges letting bioparents who just got out of jail start to work on a new case plan. I think it would depend upon what he was in for in the first place.

I always worry, but that's just me. I hate when it seems like there's light at the end of the DYFS tunnel and then you find out there's really not.

Hang in there...it looks like it's going to be a bumpy ride.

-LeenaB