[GarySlowpoke]

ISO ** or BF. Born 10-8-1969.Male, Hackensack Hospital/Medical.. Adopted through Childrens Aid Society in Paterson, now in Cedar Knolls, NJ. They are no help. Have great parents, I guess just curious.

[attheshore]

Surprised that you have no luck with Cedar Knolls agency - I would suggest you call back there again and ask for Gloria Smith - She's a great social worker who was able to help me re-unite with my daughter. Good luck.

[GarySlowpoke]

Thank you so much for the reply. The Children's Aid Soc. just really seemed that it was all about the money for releasing information. At this time in my life I am in the middle of opening a business and it is not first on my list of things to spend money on... although I would LOVE to find my mother... it is not imperative....Congrats on being reunited with your daughter...Did it cost you a lot of money to find your daughter? Did you go directly through them? They wont even just look in my folder to see if my mother has ever dropped a note to be contacted or not without an initial payment of $400.00!! Thanks..

[attheshore]

Sorry I'm just getting back to you but I believe we paid around $400 - they did have a backlog at the time we started looking and I think it took about 5-6 months after payment before they contacted me - I hope you can pursue this - we wrote a check so I don't know if they have any other options for payment (c/card, etc.). They really did a wonderful job helping me - I hope you can pursue this and that your Mom will be willing to see you. We birthmothers as a whole are so interested in the lives of those children that we were unable to care for and want so much to just know that you are even alive. I hope and pray that your birthmom is like most of us. Keep me posted. Charlene