[Cammr23]

My DH is Active Duty military and we're starting to explore adoption. We're most interested in domestic adoption, but the reading I've done suggests that it's really hard to adopt domestically if one or both spouses is in the military. I see a lot of posts here about international adoption, and it's giving me hope that we WILL be able to adopt, but I was wondering if anyone has experience adopting domestically?

TIA!

[chrisa]

Hi Tia,
we are a Air Force family have adopted twice. We adopted our beautiful daughter while stationed in California thru social services. Her case was considered fost/adopt but, it was a rare case where the birth mom relinquished . we were able to meet the birth mom and we were even there for delivery. we still stay in contact with photos and emails. One of my good friends that was stationed at the same base with us, also adopted infant twins thru social services. the case was fost/adopt and was very stressful and had many ups and downs...but, they did eventually finalize the adoption and also adopted the baby sister to the twins!!

We also adopted our wonderful little boy from Guatemala last year. We completed his adoption while stationed overseas (Germany).
I really don't think your husband's military service will be a problem if you decide on domestic. yes, in some cases with private domestic the potential birth moms like to have open adoptions. This might be hard for a military family (with all the moving) but, in many other cases some want closed or just semi-open contact.
Our social workers in California were thrilled to work with us. The military family does move around but, they offer great services to families (health care, family support, diversed culture, etc)
a great support group is the yahoo military adoption group. its under the yahoo groups section under
Adoption Support Group For MilitaryFamilies

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the group is all military families that have adopted!!! they are very supportive and can provide lots of info.

good luck,
Chris

Originally Posted by Cammr23

My DH is Active Duty military and we're starting to explore adoption. We're most interested in domestic adoption, but the reading I've done suggests that it's really hard to adopt domestically if one or both spouses is in the military. I see a lot of posts here about international adoption, and it's giving me hope that we WILL be able to adopt, but I was wondering if anyone has experience adopting domestically?

TIA!

[Cammr23]

Thanks for the info! I'll join the Yahoo group!

[usmcfamily2005]

There is no problems that I know of with military members adopting domestically.

My husband is active duty Marine Corps, we had absolutely no problem. The subject was never even brought up by our social worker, or the agency. It was just employement as far as they were concerned.

I think alot of military adopt internationally because it is easier for them to do while they are overseas. We had some friends who adopted a baby boy from Cambodia while they were stationed in Japan.

If you want to adopt domestically go for it. I have never heard of any agency turning adoptive families down because they are military.

GOOD LUCK!!

[marymartha]

my DH and I just completed our first domestic adoption. We have a fully open adoption and used a private national agency. We were picked by a birthmom specifically because DH is in the Navy. I think it would be harder with both parents in the military, but if you are suppossed to adopt, the right birthmom will come along. We do have afully open adoption complete with visits, but birthmom knows that she has to come to us if we are far away.

[lilybugs]

My exhusband was in the military when we adopted our son. He is 13 now, but was only ten days old then. We went through social services for that adoption and then was approved by a local christian based adoption agency for a second adoption when he was only a year old. I think it must vary state to state and agency to agency. Do a lot of homework and God bless...but it IS possible!