[joy38]

Dear members:

Why would 42 of you look at my post and only 1 of you respond? I specifically asked for support, even if just a few words, and now seeing the results of my reaching out here has me feeling sad, unsupported, and a little angry.

Joy

[daae32]

I am sorry you are feeling like no one cares about what you are going through. I am one of the 42 that looked at your post and felt very bad that October was such a hard time for you when for so many people it is a fun time to spend with their kiddos. The way your posting was worded, however, made me think you only wanted to hear from people who had shared the same experiences you had. I had no experience with SRA and had to look on-line to even find out what you were referring to. It seems that each day I am surprised yet again by the horrible things innocent children are made to suffer. I would imagine that most of the other people who viewed your post felt like I did, that you were trying to connect with others who could understand because of their own experiences. I hope you can begin to put your past behind you and not be filled with such dread as the fall comes on, but rest assured that there are people who feel for the pain you went through and are pulling for you...

[WingsFree]

((((((((Joy)))))))))) I'm so sorry you are having a bad time of things.

I'm new here, still finding my way around. I agree with daa also, it sorta looks like you only want to talk to people with the hurtful issues you have.

I wish I knew what to say to you, but I don't, and no I have no clue what SRA is, but I know it's probably not a good thing.

You know what ever has happened to you, I pray you soon find a way to let it go, I know myself how hard that is to do, but if you don't you'll drag it around with you for the rest of your life.....I know this because I'm doing it myself, and I'm 48, and tired of it. We can't have a future doing this to ourselves...can we?

Whoever did whatever to you, first off shame on them, shame shame shame, and they were the one's with the problem, NOT YOU. I get so angry seeing what so called adults do to children, to bad they couldn't feel the impact it has on a child twice fold. But in my heart I know somewhere along the line they will feel it.

I've been working so hard with my HP, I know our pain can be healed through him, or whatever force it is, I hope you go that route also, let Him help heal you....life can be so good, I see so many happy people, and I'm so tired of being unhappy for the most part, trying to fill in a hole, and doing it the wrong way. So I'm giving this to God the best way I know how to, I hope you allow Him in also Joy.

Now I'm starting to babble, haven't had much sleep. I hope this makes some sense to you...

Take care of yourself (((((((Joy))))))))) time to move forward, kick the past to the curb, leave it there where it belongs, and you know it's made you stronger then you probably realize.

Love.....Denise

[joy38]

Thank you both for your replies!!! I really appreciate it.

To clarify what I put in my post, before I signed it, I wrote something to the effect of, even if you haven't experienced this, please write anyway, even if just a few words.

That is what has had me so upset.

God is very much a part of my life. I am a Christian and have received a lot of healing and support from fellow Christians. This time period is still difficult for me, though. Every year, though, it gets a little better.

In Love,

Joy

[kburch]

Joy,

I'm sorry that this is such a hard time for you. I am also one of the people who read your post yesterday, and after looking up what SRA meant on the internet, I started to reply and didn't even know what to say! I am so glad that you have Christ to help you heal from your past. Just know that there are people here who will be praying for you and all the others who have suffered at this time of year. Again, I'm just so sorry!!

[BrandyHagz]

I am also sorry you didn’t receive the support you desired, but like the others, I assumed you wanted to hear only from those affected by SRA, like yourself.

In our defense, what you wrote at the end of your post was pretty specific…

I can't go into any details here, since this is read by anyone, but if there is an SRA survivor here, please send me a private message if you can support me in any way right now. If you don't know what the abbreviation stands for, it is not you. Thank God!!!

I hope you’re able to find someone to talk to who can related…I to suffered from abuse and I find this forum very comforting.

[TOWANDA]

I apologize....I had my head stuck in the sands of my own issues in searching for my daughter. That's no excuse and if you tell me what SRA is I will let you know if I have anything to offer you.

Again sorry for not reaching out.

Cat

[joy38]

Thankyou all for taking the time to write now.

Anyone can look up SRA by typing it into your search engine and reading some of the articles. WARNING: this topic deals with abuse suffered in the name of satan.

This weekend will be the toughest part to get through. I will be spending the weekend with friends, though, so I will have support.

Anyone who wants to, please keep praying for me during this time.

Thank you again,

Joy

[michellemartin]

I also looked at your post, and I didnt know what it was, so I assumed I should not respond. I hope the holiday gets easier for you as time passes.

[jules B]

Dear joy38,
Some times not everyone has good, positive support to give at times or maybe the vass majority are just like you and need support themselves. So please try to have patients while waiting for some to respond with guidence. My name is jules B and if you have some questions I would be more than willing to see if I could give you some helpful hints or an uplifting word. email me at ja12201966@yahoo.com I am an adoptee, 39 yrs old and have seen a whole lot of life and what it has to offer. But like the little engine that could, I think I can. That is what is going to make a difference in my life right now. Trying to stay focused on the glass being half full is about all I can do some times. I hope you find the support you are looking for. Best Wishes,
jules B

[babycruickshank]

Hi Joy,

I just joined this forum and realize your post is an older one but had to respond. One of my dearest friends is a survivor of sra and I completely understand your difficulty with certain times of the year. Please feel free to email me or pm me if you need some support at any time. I can only offer understanding based on what my friend shared with me over the course of several years, and what we experienced together. There is a level of trust that she has with me that is uncommon for her in general. She has mpd and I had always just accepted each as their own personhood and related to each as an individual. She too, has trouble "putting the past behind her". No one can understand the absolute horror you were subjected to and that you live in the shadow of even today. But, as many have posted here to encourage you, Christ has overcome the evil one and, although we still live in a world that seems overrun with corruption and infliction of pain, there are many good people out here who mean no harm. There are many who live to reflect the love of God to a hurting world. And, there are many, just like you, who have been so abused that it must be difficult to know who to trust and that includes trusting in Christ. The worst abuse is the lies you were told from your earliest remembrance that what is meant to be for your good is evil. I say to you, Christ has lived it all, suffered through all of it, and more, to set you free. Do not believe the lies, rather, place your trust in Him, He will never leave you nor forsake you. If you trust no one else, trust in Christ with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength. Enough for now, dear one, take good care of yourself and know that there are some out here who know and care. I am deeply troubled by the common misconceptions others have of your experience. Please know that I know.

[heidibay66]

I know how you feel..it is like you just want to find the perfect words to get at least a few responses and they never seem to come... but we all need to realize that this is a big site and doesn't only deal with our side of it. it is hard for people sometimes to get to your post thru the 1000's they have here. Hold on, we are here...don't leave.. you can always talk to me, it may take me a day or so to get back but I am not going anywhere...
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[alynp]

I am so sorry for what you have endured. You are brave to reach out.

The internet is tricky in that way. I know I poured my heart out one night with a post and got zero response also. I, too, felt hurt.

I think sometimes it could be that the post would have engaged people in a different forum on the site, or just that maybe sometimes people don't know what to say and figure someone else who does have the right thing to say will say something magically and "right." Maybe our own fear of saying something inadequate could make it hard to respond at times.

Much peace to you.

[lafayette87]

Joy, I find myself in the same boat. I posted something today about my first brother dying, and did i get a responce? Out of the twenty+ people who looked at it? No.

I'm sorry they ignored you too. My sympathies for your situation. Feel free to PM me if you want to, I'll listen, even though it seems a whole world of adoptees is choosing to ignore us.

[kyg1957]

Can you tell me a little about your situation? I am a 51 year old female looking for my birthfamily. There seems to be no one to talk to that understands the feelings an adoptee has. Talk to me. I understand.