[Tharris]

I'm having trouble healing from my emotional pain from being adopted. I have been through many psychological programs, but the pain is still there. I try so hard to let go of the past but it hurts to much to let go when I despreatly want to know who my birthparents are. I feel depressed all the time because no one really understands my grief. What is the point of living everyone who shows love to me I just blow them off due to trust reasons. Is that a serious problem? Can someone please offer me some guidance through my situations.

Thanks

[ConnorRuler]

I know how you feel. I was taken from my parents and told they didn't want me. It wasn't true. It wasn't until I was old enough to find mom that I found out she did want me. It took over 2 years to adopt me out because she kept going to court to try to get me back. She sold her house to pay lawyers. From the minute they grabbed me when I got off the school bus until I went back and found her, I never saw my folks. My dad died while I was gone. I didn't go back to the adopted parents except to get my stuff. Mom and I aren't like we would have been if they hadn't stole me away. But it makes a big difference to know she wanted me all the time. I think maybe I should marry and have kids so mom can have grandchildren to take care of and do things with that she didn't get to do with me. But then I think that maybe one day my kids would get off a school bus and be stolen. Now I know the truth, I trust mom though of course I can't set on her lap like I use to. But I won't ever trust the gov't agency that stole and sold me. Maybe what was done to us won't ever be over.

[heidibay66]

I found out I was adopted when I was 5. I was at camp with, who I thought was, my sister, when all of the kids started to tease me about being an orphan..I asked my sister about it and she told me yes i was adopted and that my parents didn't want me. I got really homesick and they let me call the people, I thought, were my parents and my adoptive mother refused to come get me...rejected again... I went thru this my whole life..rejection...rejection...rejection... until I started searching, hoping someone wanted me...rejected so far..no one seems to be looking for me.
I have searched forever and a day, no reponse. Asked for help, they got my information...no reponse..reached out to people for support...no response..Looked at myself for support..finally a response..
We all feel how you feel. We all have our stories and our pain..we all are in this together..we are all family..we are all standing together, we are all finding each other, we are all related thru adoption, we are all lost, we are all found when one us gets found, we all suffer when someone is down, and we are all here to pick them back up.
I want to find my family, it is a yearning deep inside me and I cry all the time, I WANT SOMEONE TO WANT ME..
Then I realize, I want me, I want me here..I want me alive, I am greatful to be alive, I am greatful I am adopted, I am greatful that I have been thru what I have been thru..It made me.. me..
You are not alone, I want to find you..You are not alone, we all hear you cry, you are not alone, you are here...

[keorell]

It breaks my heart to here how sad that you all are because you were adopted. My mother was a teenage mom that was forced to go to an unwed mother's home and then give her baby up for adoption. Even her own siblings were not aware that she had a baby. I learned many years ago and have tried to search but I have such limited information to work with. I do not even know the exact year of birth, let alone an actual date. I have given up hope so many times and then try again after time passes. I know that my sister was adopted through Louise Wise agency, which I learned closed down ages ago.

This time when I tried again, I learned that an active agency today named Spence-Chapin in NY has the old records form Louise Wise!! I am so excited that I am actually making progress!! My younger sisters and brother, that would also be hers are also excited. I pray that soon I will be contacting a sister that I have wondered about for 30 years!! They have given me contact information for a case worker that will be giving me "non-identifying information" so I am very excited!! I will have something more to work with!! I feel that I will find her soon!

Our mother has been gone since 1990. I would love to find her daughter. In case you are her or know her, this is the information that I have:

My mother's name at the time of birth was - Beatrice Flora Martell
Her regular home address was in East Orange, NJ
Her birthday was March 25, 1939
She had this daughter 1-2 years before I was born in 1959, so she must have been born in 1957 or early 1958?
It is my understanding the birth father was not aware of the pregnancy since he had just joined West Point Academy and my mother (or anyone) was not permitted to contact him during his initial training there. I believe his name was Robert Purcell.
I know she was sent away to hide her pregnancy from her siblings and other family members.


My point is, I'm sure that there are people that care very much to find you!! Don't give up hope!! I'm not - I'm going to keep trying until I find her! Then we can all be one big happy family!

[Withay]

This thread is originally from 2004. The 1st poster hasn't been on since 2004, 2nd since 2005 and 3rd since 2008.