[Lisa22769]

I just had an epesiotomy (sp?). My husband is anxious for sex and intercourse, but I'm worried about the pain. Any suggestions??

[debsdone]

How about.....let it heal 6 weeks like the doctor says? Debi

[Lisa22769]

The doctor didn't give us any instructions like that. Thank you. It has been six weeks, though. Any other suggestions?

[debsdone]

sorry, that was the sum total of my knowledge in this area as I only had c-sections. Good Luck! Debi

[Dragonfly82]

You could try going slowly (gently) at first and if it hurts . . . stop. If you are still experiencing pain after six weeks, I would recommend calling your doctor for advice or perhaps a follow-up visit. Six weeks is usually the recommended waiting period.

[Xanny]

Does it hurt when you're not having sex? If so, then I'd definitely call the doctor. If not, then you can try Dragonfly's advice, or be even more cautious and try touching yourself first to see if that hurts. Just as you would with any healing injury, you can probe the area to see if there are tender spots.

If this is more an anxiety thing than a physical thing, try talking to your husband and explaining that a human being came out of your vagina just recently, and you're a little bit anxious about activity in that general area. Tell him that if he wants to have sex, it's in his best interest to put you totally at ease...romance, candlelight, a massage...whatever makes you feel relaxed and helps you communicate with him. If you feel totally connected with him before you start intercourse, you will trust that he will stop if you need him to, and that will help you relax and enjoy yourself.

Good luck!

--Xanny

[asueh]

I've been there too. You may want to try KY ointment and of course relax and go slow.... real slow. It will get better each time afterward.