[thesearchguru]

Welcome to the Search and Reunion Message Board!

Whether you use a search angel or hire a professional it is very important to establish "contact" rules from the beginning when using a third party to search. If you want to be the one to make contact request that the third party "not make contact for you". Always consider that the person you are needing to contact "may not know" (in the case of a sibling or other relative) or "may not have told anyone else" (in the case of a birth parent).

It's generally best to make contact yourself by letter (with a picture) with the birth parent (or adoptee if a birth parent is searching). Only if that person is deceased or declines contact should you then contact another family member. It's always important to be respectful of unknown circumstances that you may not be aware of when seeking your biological relatives.

If contacting a birth parent write a "genealogy" type letter giving your birth name, date of birth and place of birth and asking if you might possibly be related. Include your current name, address, email address and phone number so that they can respond to you. If writing an adoptee include the name you gave the child, the date of birth and the hospital and adoption agency used to facilitate the adoption.

If the person you are seeking was also searching generally there is no problem making contact in any manner. But, it is wise not to risk making contact the wrong way, at the wrong time, with the wrong person if you do not know if they were searching or if they informed other family members about you. It's always best to make the first contact the most cautious and respectful contact.

Many blessings on your search and reunion journey,



California Search Site:

http://www.adoptionforums.com
http://www.adoptionchat.com
http://www.adoptionlists.com
http://www.adoption.com
http://www.adopting.org
http://www.adoptionregistry.com