How to Tell Daughter that we located her brother?

Michele81 · #1 08-05-2009, 01:08 PM

We recently finalized the adoption of a 14 year old with severe emotional needs. Her behaviors have stabilized over the past few months. We just located her birth brother - they were separated 5 years ago & have had no contact. Any advice on how to proceed? I'm going to talk with the brother's adoptive dad to come up with a game plan as well.

Thanks!
Michele

bakerjw · #2 08-06-2009, 04:40 AM

Does she talk about her brother? I'd expect that being 14 and dealing with emotional issues would cause her to talk about the things that made her secure about life. If her brother was one of those things then it might be very therapeutic.

Ask her if she ever thinks about "brothers name". If she says that she hates him then it's best to hold off. Otoh if she says that she misses him and would like to see him again then you have an opening to advance the conversation.

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