[clivingston722]

My sister was given up for adoption in Michigan in 1982. Through some detective work on my part I was able to find her. She actually posted her information on this site! So I've tried calling the number listed and had to leave a voicemail. I've tried emailing. I was able to make direct contact with her adopted mom who was very guarded. She asked that I not contact my sister, she would speak with her and if she wants to have anything to do with me then she will call or something. I agreed but then realized that that's a really unfair request. Anyway, I've tried reaching out to her via email multiple times and she won't respond to me.

I guess I don't understand why you would put your information on an adoption registry if you didn't want to have contact with your bio family. Does anyone have any thoughts about this? I'm really getting discouraged.

[bakerjw]

Has she posted on the forums on here or did she just register? If she registered, then she is certainly open to some form of dialog.

I would suspect that he adopted mom is not passing along the messages. It could be that she didn't know that her daughter was even searching. That is one reason that I am a proponent of letters before calls but that is just me. I am not sure about the e-mails though. They could be dead accounts.

If she has posted here and has a screen name then I'd certainly Google the screen name and see if it shows up any other places. I assume that you have her full name and have tried facebook and myspace.

You may also try another e-mail and ask for a response one way or the other like would be done with a postcard in a letter. Let her know that if she is not open to anything right now that you will not pursue it any further but that you will be there if she ever changes her mind.

Best wishes and don't get discouraged. Sometimes when people are searching and unexpected contact happens they pull back. She might have cold feet and may be mulling it over.

[snuffie]

I agree. You can't be sure that her adoptive mom is passing along the messages. Your sister may want to keep her search a secret from her mom and also she may be processing the fact that you answered her! It does take time and its really, really hard to have patience! Believe me I know.

I would give her a bit more time and then try to contact her directly again.

Sometimes all it takes is time.

Snuffie

[feb171983]

If she hasn't responded to multiple e-mails,... wait.

Give her time, space, and wait for her reply. If she doesn't reply, ever, send one last e-mail saying that you won't pressure her or contact her anymore, but give her long-lasting contact info. Then, wait, again. :-X

When did she register on this site? Recently or years ago?