Anxiety of meeting Granddaughter

kdecrow · #1 05-13-2009, 04:54 AM

For everyone that has followed my story after finding my birth son deceased, I thank you and may I impose on you once again? In 3 weeks I will be meeting my 12 y.o. Gdaughter.

How do I keep it together? I don't want to sob and scare the poor kid to death...any suggestions on how to prepare myself mentally?

I'm so grateful to have this blessing in my life. I don't want to blow it.

Thanks,

Kim

bakerjw · #2 05-13-2009, 06:36 AM

Sorry that I don't recall all of the details of your bsons passing.

Does your granddaughter know who you are? I just wonder how they've explained it to her.

It'll be tough to be prepared mentally for the meeting, but you'll do fine. Kids are resilient and what kid can't have enough grandparents? I only had one up until I was 4 and know I could have used more.

Sometimes we just have to enjoy the moment and not worry about all of the details. I'm not trying to make light of your concern, just trying to make sure that you stop and smell the roses.

Best wishes and let us know how it goes.

Dickons · #3 05-13-2009, 06:59 AM

Hi Kdecrow,

Wow, what an update...you are meeting your sons daughter...what a wonderful end and new beginning of your quest.

Like Baker said, who can have two many grandparents? You will be fine and more than fine...you will rise to the occasion and not do anything to scare the child. Heart open is the best advice I can give you.

All the best...you will be fine. Enjoy the day, don't think any further than the day and how much joy you will experience.

Kind regards,
Dickons

CathrynAnne · #4 05-13-2009, 09:16 AM

Oh, I'm so excited for you! I agree with everyone else - just enjoy and be in the moment. If you cry, you cry. It's a normal response. I'm sure if you hug her so hard you smother her, someone will pull her away before she passes out. LOL! Just kidding. Let us know how it turns out.

imprttuner2 · #5 05-13-2009, 09:46 AM

I agree completly with CathrynAnne... Be in the moment and do whatever feels right. There is no way to prepare for anything like that and if you try to anticipate you may miss something that is there while you are looking for something that is not. Your Gdaughter is wanting to meet you. Just be you and let whatever happens, happen naturally.

Best of luck!

kdecrow · #6 05-13-2009, 04:02 PM

Ok, I'm going to do my best to go with the flow, and enjoy the moment.

What a powerful moment it will be-touching a descendant for the first time.

I'll keep you posted.

Thanks,

Kim

snuffie · #7 05-13-2009, 07:31 PM

Ohhhh, I am so happy for you! What a blessing after such a tragedy.

I agree with the others. Just be yourself. Kids really respect honest feelings. I know your day will be so very special. I would have given anything to give my birthgrandma a hug and my birthmom too as they both had passed before I found them.

Please keep us posted and best wishes to you.

Snuffie

Dickons · #8 05-14-2009, 06:38 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kdecrow

What a powerful moment it will be-touching a descendant for the first time.

Thanks,

Kim

Kim,

When my son was born it truly was a powerful moment to me too, I just drank in the waves of feelings that surrounded me at that moment and the lingering awe that cannot be described.

Kind regards,
Dickons

kdecrow · #9 06-09-2009, 06:07 PM

Keep me in your prayers, guys. I will be meeting my granddaughter Friday.

I hope God gives me strength to answer her questions honestly and appropriately.

Look for an update Saturday!

Kim

P.S. I KNOW I am blessed.

BlackSheep · #10 06-09-2009, 07:04 PM

How exciting!!!! I am sure you will be fine and just remember to Breathe, breathe, breathe! lol Will be looking to an update.

God bless you and all your family in this exciting time and beyond.

imprttuner2 · #11 06-10-2009, 06:41 AM

Cant wait for your update. I'm so excited for you. Have fun and let whatever emotions flow that need to! God Bless you and your reunion!

kdecrow · #12 06-11-2009, 12:52 PM

My granddaughter's mom was supposed to have called me 2 nights ago to tell me where to meet her.

No call. I'm in shock. This meeting was her idea. I cannot take any more pain. God forgive me I wonder if it would have been easier 30 years ago had I aborted.

Pray for me.

Kim

loveajax · #13 06-11-2009, 01:19 PM

Kim, is there any way for you to contact her (your granddaughter's mom)? Are you supposed to be traveling very far? I just say this because I am honestly a huge flake and people often say, "you were supposed to call ME," etc. (I am not making excuses for her, but I would not give up hope yet.). I am sorry you are dealing with this and really hope that you get to meet your granddaughter tomorrow!

kdecrow · #14 06-11-2009, 02:30 PM

No, won't be traveling but about 30 minutes. I did find the Mom's # on her facebook info. We have been keeping in touch the last several months on facebook. I have been so careful not to be pushy. We have never spoken on the phone.

Dare I call her?

Kim

loveajax · #15 06-11-2009, 02:36 PM

Kim, yes, definitely! You are not overstepping...you had plans! Good luck and keep us updated.

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