[SoniaRose]

If you were supposed to meet your granddaughter tomorrow, I think you should call her mom tonight and politely ask if the plans are still on. After all, you need to plan your day. Perhaps she just forgot to call you. If she is canceling the meeting, then she also needs to let you know. If you feel too uncomfortable calling, then maybe you can email her through facebook; however, there's a chance you may not get an answer tonight if she doesn't check her email daily. Good luck! I would try not to worry too much at this point; there could be a very good reason why she hasn't called.

[Jensboys]

Hi My name is Jen and last summer I brought my then 13 year old son to meet his biological family (adopted).

Anyways, the WORST experience was meeting one of the grandmothers so I thought I would share our thoughts with you so that you can maybe learn a bit from her mistakes. First off ... huge emotional displays were a big no-no for him. Grandma was all about how the "lost baby" was back and how sad she had been and cried buckets. And he totally thought she was NUTS. Also, she hugged him ALOT and long and made him HUGELY uncomfortable. And, she was so wrapped up in HER grief and loss that she spent very little time trying to get to know HIM - who he is, what he likes, where he wants to go in life etc. It was all about her grief and nothing to do with him. Anyways - he wants nothing to do with her now, and has refused all contact since that initial visit. My biggest piece of advice is to remember that although to YOU she is your granddaughter, to HER you are a stranger (one she is probably curious about though ) and relationships take time. I feel so sad that my sons' grandmother couldnt realize that and wasted the time she DID have with my son grieving for all that was lost.

[kdecrow]

OMG, just as I was about to dial her # she called. She says my gdaughter knows everything and cannot wait to meet me! I could hear my Gdaughter in the background, "Mom, ask her this....ask her that...)

How wonderful! There is a God!

Thanks for seeing me through this rough spot Ajax!

Look for an update and I might even force a picture or two on you!

Granny Kim

[kdecrow]

I am totally on board with what you are saying. My Gdaughter will see no grief from me tomorrow, only happiness.
I will let her make the first move as far as hugging, etc...but I'm going to keep it light.

Then I'll go home and scream in my pillow! Or perhaps have a margarita, whichever strikes my fancy!

Thanks for your advice.
Kim

[loveajax]

Oh kim!!! I am thrilled. Enjoy and definitely share those pix! I will be thinking of you tomorrow!

[RavenSong]

Kim, I have absolutely no doubt that your meeting with your little granddaughter is going to be wonderful. God has been with you every single step of the way, and I know you know this. There have been so many "coincidences" on your journey...there's no doubt in my mind that God has His handprints all over this reunion. (I was just recalling how you unexpectedly met your son's godparents at Mass that Sunday morning a couple years ago.)

Enjoy your visit, and be sure to come straight back here to tell us all about it!

[kdecrow]

Thank you guys so very much for your support. Raven, that's so sweet of you to remember the GParent situation.

We've since become friends and they give me a big hug every Sunday at Mass!

Kim

[dpen6]

I would go for the margirita!!

Enjoy...its sounds like she is just as thrilled to meet you!

This is so great.

[kdecrow]

No biggie. Mom couldn't find a babysitter for her newborn so we'll meeting Saturday at O'Charley's at 1pm.

Probably better. I gotta find something to wear that will take 50 lbs. off of me! Whoever wants pictures email me at kdecrow@mac.com and I'll forward them.

Ok. It's on!!

[kdecrow]

I'm fine but my poor grandaughter's house suffered severe damage. We rescheduled our lunch in 2 weeks.

Arrrrgggg.....

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[kdecrow]

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Kim

[SuddenlySusan]

Kim,

After all you have been through, my heart sings for you.

Best wishes in your new journey with your granddaughter.

Hugs,
Susan

[kdecrow]

Tomorrow @ 1 p.m. I will finally meet my Granddaughter!

I can't wait!

Update on Sunday!

Kim

[SuddenlySusan]

So happy for you, Kim! Keep breathing!

Hugs,
Susan

[zxczxcasdasd]

It's been a long time coming! I hope all goes well! Do let us know!