[jrainbow]

We are in our 2nd year of reunion and working to make this less of a "adoption reunion story" and more normal. With one side, there is no question - I'm introduced as her daughter. Most people that she deals with know the story. But I'm just beginning to be involved in his space. If he introduces me as his daughter, this opens up all sorts of questions. Some people don't need to know the whole story although they do know him well enough to know he has never had a daughter this old. But a married man introducing a female "friend" is from out of town also not cool.

When I talk about visiting them, I have stopped using bmom and bdad. People who know me know who they are (my aparents have passed away) and for others, i just don't want to always explain.

What does your bfamiy do? Or is it even an issue?

[cetalley]

Sweat the small issues at times huh? Jrainbow, as a Firstmom, if and when I find my twin sons, (and am allowed a part in their lives), I will allow them to call me and introduce me ,in the way they are most comfortable with. I do see where this may be an issue, but really we tend to at times make something more out of an issue than needs to be. Anybody that MATTERS in our lives will understand, those who do not, none of their business. Please do what makes YOU comfortable, and discuss this with your first-parents, see what their thoughts of this matter are. Blessings, and congrats on the reunion!