[fractalgirl]

A month ago, I submitted my form for an active post adoption search. Friday, I got what appeared to be a standard confirmation letter telling me that there is a waiting period of two years. What I missed in the first reading was that my birth mom has registered for contact. Social services had written her at her last known address and were awaiting reply. Unless she has moved and not updated her address, a reunion is nigh. Wow! So, right now, my name and contact info is sitting in a folder with that of my birth moms!

The first thought that came up when reading this was: SHE DOES WANT ME! I guess that I always felt alone with the responsibility that it was on me to find her. As well, I have always been realistic in knowing that it was quite possible that she might not want to be found. Knowing she has reached out is so very affirming.

I had first registered with the provincial post-adoption registry for a passive search when I was 22 (am 34 now). Since then, I moved quite a bit, internationally a few times, and not bothered to keep my address up to date with the registry. A couple of years ago, I moved back to my hometown and only now decided to register again, this time for an active search. I never expected such an immediate reaction! At least not consciously. For some reason it took me three weeks before putting my form in the mail - I just kept carrying it around.

I do need to tell my parents but I’m going to wait until I’m sure that there will be contact. My Mum has said before that she would support me searching so while I anticipate some emotion, it’ll all be good.

As to communication with my birth family, I’m just beside myself with feelings and questions. I’ve started working on a letter along with doing all the reading that I can about reunions. I know that it will have to be a while before a meeting, or even phone call. It’s going to have to be slow process – I’ve learned that much so far!

Thank you for all the advice on this forum. I’ll keep you posted!

[Jackiejdajda]

This is wonderful news..

Patience is the lesson at hand IMO..

I hope and pray all works out..

Jackie

[bakerjw]

That is really fantastic to hear. i think that you are going about it the right way in that your expectations are to go slow. I hope things start off on the right foot and everything goes great!

Best wishes.

[LMNGambino]

Hopefully, your reunion will be soon! Congrats! But a TWO YEAR WAITING PERIOD???? Oh, yeah, I forgot. We are adoptees and are not legally human, and are not afforded the same rights as non adopted persons. lol. Maybe they want to make sure we are not serial killers? Makes me ill.