[mumuf3]

After all the advice (pro and con) that I got from my first post, I have decided to go ahead and write a letter. Here's a link so you know where I am.
Contacting birth relatives with a closed adoption.

I have the last know addresses of the grandparents and want to send the letter to them first. Please read the letter and give me advice on what I should add or take out.

Thanks a ton for all of the help you have already given me.

[quote[
Dear birth family,

I am the adoptive mother of DS and DD . If you are a relative of DS and DD, please reply to this letter by e-mailing me at DD&DS@yahoo.com. If this letter has reached you in error please let me know so I can continue my search.

DS and DD are not ready for a reunion but they both have questions about their heritage that I cannot answer. I am making contact in hopes that we can form an open line of communication so we can share information about DD and DS.

Sincerely,

My first name[/quote]

[bakerjw]

I think that it is great that you are being proactive for the sake of your adopted children. You are helping them overcome many of the hurdles that many of us that are searching face regularly.

I do not know the ages of the grandparents, but they may not have e-mail. If you are trying to keep your address private, I would go the route of a PO box but that is certainly your call.

your kids may never fully appreciate what you're doing, but I do.

[mumuf3]

I know that this sounds a little paranoid but PO boxes can be traced if someone really wants to find you. I am planning on having a family member out of state mail it for me.