[rubornn61]

Your story is so much like mine however I have not located my birthsister yet. However before I started this search I weighed all the consequences. Yes I will be disowned by my mother when I locate her and yes there is a chance when I do find my sister that she will want nothing to do with me, but I needed to know if she was alright. I have prepared my self for disownment and I have prepared myself for my sister's rejection. .
We are all adults. You can not and never will be able to control the actions of anyone else. However you can and need to follow your heart. I know that I have followed my heart. I know that I will never be able to make my mom 100% happy in anything that I do, and life is just way to short to try. So I am searching for my sister because I want to know how she is and if she is okay. If that is selfish so be it. Sometimes we must follow our hearts but I urge you to make sure you are doing what you are doing with a clear head.
As far as your mother referring to it as not your concern...well I'm sorry but that is not right. Blood is thicker than water and she is your blood, she is your sister and it does concern you. When I think of all the years I have missed (we are both in our 40's) my sister and I have missed births of our children, birthday parties, marriages, chicken pox, cooties, all things that sisters should share.
Your fortunate to have found your sister. Many of us would give our right arm to be in your shoes for just one day. Enjoy each other. Cherish this time. You know she is out there. If your hearts tells you to do it than by all means do it. Contact her.
Life is short follow your heart.
I wish you all the best and please keep us informed as we care .

Searching for My Indiana Sister
Teresa

[rainmon]

Yes I also agree, anonymously would be the best way, and maybe ask her not to mention how exactly she got the info. she could just say through a search angel. this way they can handle it on their own, and your not in the middle.