[Mil]

My bson does look somewhat like me and I think that pleases both of us. But he also has some features that didn't come from me or my family. But to be truthful, I don't remember EXACTLY what his bdad looks like. It's been 35 yrs. since I've seen him and the memory is a little fuzzy. If I think real hard, I can kind of see him in my mind, but specific features are a blur. I can't tell you what color eyes he has. Or what his nose looks like, lol. I never had a picture of him, so my my mental pic is all I have and it's not too good. Not that I mind, lol. But my son's emotional make-up is the same as mind. I feel that I understand him easily as we're very much the same. I feel closer to him because of that than the physical similarities. I understand being disappointed that you don't look like your bmom, but I think forging a good relationship with her is more important. Good luck in your reunion.

[susieloo]

Hi, birthmumhere...reunion 12yrs.
I love that my birthdaughter looks like me. She is more like me than the two daughters i have raised...quite obviously to all concerned. I told her i was glad we looked similar...i think it helped our relationship develop. We even buy the same parcels quite randomly...its quite special and lots of other similarities. My son is also like me...but those two daughters in the middle...i love them dearly, but i cant help wonder where they came from sometimes!
its so just the luck of the gene pool at the time i guess.
Her amom finds it a little unnerving sometimes, but our relationship has developed enough that she can talk about to me!
susie

[alinev]

Looking like one's family is important to both bio and a people. My 2 ason's (bio brothers) look almost identical to one another and their bfather. My bio son looks like his dad which my DH's family constantly reminds me. Every once in a while I wish someone looked like me, just to get a little credit for all the work LOL!

[L-cain]

My son's (that I raised) father was Italian, of course dark brown hair and eyes. I'm as blonde as can be w/ blue eyes. Yup! My son looked like his father-but only in coloring. The one little thing that most people didn't notice is that his toes and fingers curled up at the ends, just like mine! Better than having the same hair color any day! My birth son, on the other hand, is the spitting image of me, in every way physically-same hair and eyes and same smile---------------I wonder what his toes and fingers look like??? (I have a picture of him from 1991, when he was 22) But there's no closeup of the fingers and toes.

[jrainbow]

I totally understand. I was disappointed that I didn't look like my bmom and I think she was too. My children look like their dad so I was particularly disappointed that I still didn't look like anyone. Underneath, we are a lot alike but not in looks.

Then I met my bdad - he certainly could never deny me. Splitting image. Amazing. He sees bmom in my eyes, coloring, and mannerisms. I'll take that.

My bmom has a plaque in her kitchen that the only reason this house has a kitchen is because it came with one. We had no idea that was hereditary! It isn't just looks.

Jill