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03-10-2008, 03:41 PM
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Wondering?
Catholic Services found my birth mother and has arranged a meeting tomorrow, I'm wondering if anyone has any advice on what to bring with me. Should I bring pics of childhood? Should I bring flowers? I'm really nervous! I don't want my birthmother to feel bad about what she missed out on if I bring childhood pics but I do want her to know I had a good life. I was also thinking of bringing her a necklace with a star on it because I have wished on alot of stars to finally meet her and I know it's corny but it symbolizes something for me, too much to bring for the first meeting???? Any advice would be appreciated!
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#2
03-10-2008, 07:02 PM
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I bet you're really nervous about meeting your birthmom tomorrow! I know I was so nervous right before I met my son for the first time.
Believe me, she will LOVE any pictures of you growing up!! And don't ever be afraid of her feelings being hurt because you had a great childhood. I know that when I placed my son for adoption, a great life is what I wanted for him! I treasure each and every photograph I have of my son's childhood and teen years. I'm sure your birthmom will too! I love the star necklace idea. Be sure to tell her the story behind it...she'll love it! Be sure to let us know how things go for you tomorrow. And try to get some sleep tonight, lol!! Good luck!
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03-10-2008, 07:35 PM
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Bring it all! And enjoy it all! I love the necklace idea and what it stands for and I have a feeling it will mean the world to her. My bmom gave me a necklace the first time we met, it is a heart and says "You are always in my heart", I absolutely treasure it. I don't wear it every day, I wear it when I need to feel her with me. It gives me great strength.
Enjoy and please let us know how it goes. And remember just breath, she is as nervous as you, just take it one step at a time. Best wishes!
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03-11-2008, 06:15 AM
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The pictures of his childhood was what I wanted..
How did it go? Jackie
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03-11-2008, 07:50 AM
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She'll love it all - go for it! Let us know how things went?
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03-11-2008, 02:20 PM
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Thank-you
I want to thank everyone for responding. They called me yesterday after I posted this thread and said that they misscheduled. HEAVY SIGH! Now I just have to wait until Thursday. I've waited 34 years, what another 2 days, Right? It's so nice to have people give you advice when you need it and know exactly what you're going through. That's for all your advice, I'll keep everyone updated.
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03-11-2008, 03:31 PM
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thats exciting angel
anything you want to give is MORE than enough just meeting you will be a present in itself! i hope the reunion goes well and its all you ever thought it should be 
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birthmom to daughter born August 15, 1990 ive been waiting for a reunion for 18 yrs  im on the road to healing from the emotional pain tks Jesus  You alone are trully great!!!  August 15 2008 daughters "18th" Birthday *update*......daughter is 19 now and i am praying she will contact me.....contemplating making contact with her     
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03-11-2008, 06:56 PM
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I agree with what has already been said. Take pictures. I am in contact with my birth mother through email. I have sent her pictures and she told me that she was making an album with the pictures that I had sent to her and some of the emails. I will get to meet my birth mother and my half brother in May. She doesn't know it yet but I am going to send her flowers for mothers day.
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03-11-2008, 07:04 PM
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Oh, please keep us posted! I think the star necklace is such a cool idea. It lets your bmom know that you've wished for her a long time. Maybe a small bouquet of flowers. And a picture of you as a little person she can keep.
I know the pictures that my bfamily and I have shared are such a big part of the reunion. I look at them all of the time and they never fail to remind me of how very lucky I am.
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03-12-2008, 01:51 PM
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Thank-you
Thank-you so much everyone! All your advice has put me more at ease with meeting her tomorrow and bringing the necklace and pict
ures!
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03-13-2008, 06:24 PM
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How did things go today??
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03-14-2008, 07:19 PM
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Well, I came down after all the excitement of meeting my birthmother for the first time. I was never so nervous in my life. As soon as I started to talk to her, I was so at ease. The initial meeting went great. She only lives about a half an hour from me. She was so sweet. I can't believe I finally found her and got to meet her after almost 20 years of searching. Anyone reading this, Don't ever give up hope. I was so determined at times and lost every ounce of hope ALOT! It's been an emotional rollercoaster- I think I need a drink!
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03-14-2008, 07:42 PM
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Oh, how wonderful!!! How did she like the necklace?
Dreams really do come true!
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03-14-2008, 07:58 PM
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I am glad to hear that it went well.
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03-15-2008, 08:41 AM
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She loved the necklace. I also gave her earrings that go with the necklace. She wanted to put them on right there. She got me a purse and a enormous box of chocolates which I thought was so sweet. She gave me a card that said I have brought happiness to her life. She explained why she couldn't keep me and how she wanted me to have a better life then her. She was so proud and happy that I had went to college and was raised Catholic. I'm actually sending her the pictures we had taken together with a card thanking her again. This is all so surreal!
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