[BibbidyBoo]

My father called up the stairs to me that I had a letter from the Family Services, that I had filed with under the adoption registry of Nevada.

I went downstairs and opened it and inside is a letter sent November 21 (received Dec 1) saying my bfather had also filed. Right below was all his information. Whle they said it might not be correct, the update date was October 25 of this year!

I'm almost 19, and this is such a ...wow, can't think of a word. I mean, most stories on here talk of the bmother but not many the bfather. This is... yeah, I hope he sends me a letter.

Don't know if I could talk on the phone, and I'm going to Disneyland this weekend! Oh me, oh my!!

[Southernroots]

How exciting for you! I am a reunited birth mom, but, have spoken to a couple of birth dads recently. Most birth dads were pretty young at the time of relinquishment and like many of us birth moms, some of them truly regret losing their children. Birth dads get a lot of bad press, but, I have met some really great ones.

So, did they also send your contact info to your birth dad at the same time? Ah, the waiting game - I remember it well - exciting, scary, and alot of other emotions swirl around.

My reunion is now 4 years old. Our first contact was by phone. Not to worry if you have trouble on the phone - if you really don't want to talk via phone first though, send him a letter. Our first phone call lasted 2 hours - it was the best call I have ever had - it was magic.

Good luck! Good thoughts will be coming your way. Have fun at Disneyland - if you ride a roller coaster think of reunion - it truly does have amazing and dramatic ups and downs - all normal.

Relax - enjoy every single second!

[AwaitingBeloved]

Wow! BibbidyBoo, that's awesome! Congratulations, and good luck!

[aura]

Have you thought of sending him a letter if you don't want to talk on the phone? How exciting for you hon, you have got to be in shock! Keep us updated on what happens! Aura

[BibbidyBoo]

So our first phone call lasted about ten minutes, because he had to go give a speech thing at his church. He seems reallly nice and just really funny acually.


He's calling back later tonight and we're gonna ask eachother questions. However, I really don't have any questions.

Are there any good questions to ask?

Thanks for all your support!

[Southernroots]

The "good" questions are whatever you want to know - siblings, work, play, talents, anything you want to know.

If you can't think of any questions, just talk to him just like you would anyone that you are just getting to know. The questions will come eventually. I personally think it may be better to wait a while to ask the "harder" questions. Some may disagree.

If you have no burning questions that you're dying to know though, just chat with him - tell him about your life - what you do for work and fun - hobbies, etc. and ask him the same.

No rush - go slow and enjoy!

[Richard Justin]

Hi BibbidyBoo. I am a birth father. I found my son about five years ago and our reunion has been a joy to me ever since. That your birth father had registered says that he has kept you in his heart all these years. I know you will have a successful reunion experience. Congratulations, and please share your story with us as it unfolds.

I also want to express my admiration for your adoptive parents for supporting you in a search. It was a big risk they took, not knowing what you would find and how it might affect their family. Be sure to give them extra hugs even as your excitement centers on your reunion.

Rich

[Ehines]

I hope you Thanked your"Father" for his love and support and try and image how he must be feeling as what has happened to you may -be a wonderful thing it affects the others in your life as well......
I agree .....U are in what is consided "The Honey-moon" stage;go slow take your time ....and personally Good for U....

[eastendmommy]

This must be very exciting for you, Bibbidy Boo! How I wish my birth son was looking for me! Don't worry about what to say - the heart is a mighty mouthpiece! Just be yourself and rest will come naturally. You don't have to rush -- you two have alot to discuss and all the time in the world to do it. Now that you've found each other, pieces will fall into place. Take it slow, don't overwhelm him with tons of questions right off the bat. Good luck to you both!! Tammi, birthmother to Joshua born Sept.2, 1980.

[pharm]

Very exciting for you bippity!! Good Luck and you'll be in my thoughts and prayers !!!

Ditto to everyone else's advice but Double ditto's to Richard Justin ...give your afamily lots of extra hugs during this time as they share your excitement.!!!

[BibbidyBoo]

We're not really talking right now, simply for the fact that I have college finals this week, but we have been talking a lot through e-mail and phone calls.

He's a really funny guy, and his wife and stepdaughter and entire friend/church circuit all seem very supportive of the situation. They've all seem at least one picture of me.

We're planning on meeting in January on the weekend of the 13th before I have to go back to school. His wife and himself are coming down here. He said they were leaving the younger daughter behind because he would never get a word in edge-wise if she were there!

This has been a great experience, and I thank you all for your support. And yes, I've been giving them lots of hugs!

[mrosey]

Congratulation! So happy for you...enjoy your holidays and here's to an exciting "new" year!

mrosey

[ChristiBender]

Bibbidy.... WHAT's going on??? We need an update. Come on.. it's been a week... these are exciting times. Share the news!

[BibbidyBoo]

Sorry it's been so long, a lot of things have been going on and everything.

Well, we had a great reunion!^^ I can't even begin to describe it. It was great, because we found eachother, and hugged, and sat down at the table they'd been waiting at. Within 10seconds my mum was crying, and my bdad and I just kinda snickered as she had to go get a tissue.

The weekend we didn't get to talk a lot about everything that happened with my creation or their relationship. Kinda like a first date I guess, just kidna feel eachother out. I'm looking forward to going up where he lives in May after school lets out.

Now the search is on for my birth mother. Which I actually found her address through the internet on my own, and sent off a letter. Which found its way to Leander, before being forwarded back here.

I'm letting it drop for now. Carl (bdad) offered to help me, but right now his dad's got leukemia out of remission and I don't want to add to the stress or anything.

Anyway, thanks for being supportive^^