[Janet Heath]

My story is another example of "no" doesn't always mean "no". In the process of waiting, I connected with other family and have some wonderful relationships. It took over 2 years from intial reaching out for contact to make contact. It took help from other family members to reach that point. It has all been so worth it.

[katnap80]

It's mighty quiet here, just where is everyone....Aura, Tammy in particular...see most of the "others" elsewhwhere....

HUG!
"K"

[hummeryellow]

Aura.... Us nosey folks want to know, HOW WAS YOUR BIRTHDAY.

[eastendmommy]

Popping my head in here...been a while. Took me a bit to catch up on the previous posts...sporadic activity, I see!!

Jason and I continue to chat on the phone quite a bit... we're trying to get together before our kids go back to school and get in a trip to King's Island or something...I hope we can do that!

I left my husband of 14 years the first part of April... got a brand new condo with tons of amenities and space... we are all very happy and content... drama is over in our lives... Jason helped us move... he was the 'muscle'!

Love to all, Tammi

[JJinSanDiego]

Nice to see you Tam Tam!! This place is somewhat of a ghost town, as you probably have gathered.

So happy to hear about your new, content life! Hope the visit with Jason works out!

[L@@king2]

boy, yes it is a ghost down here!!

And yes, I too haven't been here for a while - I kinda stopped reading the adoption forums - as my reunion is going very well!! no plans on 'when' to meet - but keeping updated with each other thru emails! All is quite well!

Tammy - so sorry to hear about your divorce, but all for the good! YOUR good!! Just as long as you and your kids are happy and content - that's all that matters! Hope you've settled into your new place!

Okay - off to cruize some more here!
Take care everyone!

[geogdeb]

Hi Everyone,

I know, I know, I haven't posted in forever. But I still lurk every now and then. I have had a lot going on the past few months with work, travel, neck surgery, father-in-law's death, etc. But the one constant has been the relationship with my bson. He is so even tempered and easy to get along with. Wonder where he got it from -- must be bdad trait .

Anyway, I am so thrilled for you Ligita! You were so patient.

Also thrilled for you Janet! You may have been the most patient of all!

And Tammi -- I am glad to hear you are happy. I admire your determination and you are such a good example as a firstmom and just a mom in general! Hope to hear more from you soon!!!

JJ, what about your bdad -- did you get the test results?

Missy -- any news?

I know I am forgetting most of the people that post on here, but I won't in the future. I am still catching up on everyone's story. Here is mine for those of you that have not seen my posts (because I haven't posted in so long). I actively searched about 4 years for my bson (born in 1979). I was told a passel of lies when I relinquished and always thought it would be easy to reunite, which of course was not the case. After researching and pushing, I finally got the agency I used in GA to comply with the law and do a C.I. search for my bson. The C.I. made contact on 2/16/06 and my son finally (although it wasn't that long in retrospect) agreed to contact and I learned who he was on 3/02/06. Since then I have been riding the rollercoaster of reunion. I am one of those lucky ones. It has been a good reunion and made me very happy, but it also has made me angry and sad. I missed out on so much.

Anyway, hope to hear from all of you soon.

Deb

[JJinSanDiego]

Nice to see you, Deb!!

yes, I did get test results . . . it's HIM!! And he calls once a week. AND I've talked to my sister who is 14 years younger. I'm closer in age to her mom than her! We laughed about THAT!

I will meet Jim and my sister in October when I go to Billings . . . just keeps unfolding!!

Hello to all of our absentees!!

[Janet Heath]

Deb, good to see you! Decided to poke my head in and here you are!

Thank you, I have gained so many wonderful people in my life. In 2 months, I will be moving to Colorado to be with my mother's family. My mother and I are still talking and she is happy for me.

I also have been angry and sad that I have missed out on so much. Am trying to just enjoy now so that I don't let more time to enjoy my family pass me by. Don't want to miss out on anymore.

[Janet Heath]

Deb,

Sorry to hear about your father-in-law. What kind of neck surgery did you have done?

[geogdeb]

Geez, it is still quiet here. JJ -- so glad you found your father - and another sister. How wonderful for you. I hope the f2f goes well.

Janet -- glad you checked in. I had a diskectomy and fusion?? It helps, but I think I will have arthritis forever in my neck and shoulders. Just part of getting old I guess.

Roll call everyone -- come out and play.

Deb

[joycie]

Hello to some old friends!

Like so many others, I don't post much anymore but I do read any new post that comes along. I think, as our reunions have solidified, we don't have that urgent need to post the way we used to and yet, it would be a shame to lose complete touch with the people we have come to know through the forum.

Briefly, my bson, still living in Japan but presently spending this month in Prague, Czech Republic, is talking of making a trip to North America, this fall(?) and said he'd like to make a stop in our city. Haven't seen him since he came last October so it's time! It will be 10 years on Sunday since I first learned that contact had been made with him to let him know that I was searching. We are quite comfortable with each other now, in spite of infrequent get-togethers.

Our daughter gave birth to a beautiful baby boy on July 3rd. He is our 3rd grandchild ( all boys) They are such happy and devoted parents it is a joy to hear the updates. They live in Toronto. To date we've only seen him once, a few days after his birth, but get frequent pics and can see how much he is growing.

Our younger son, who lives about 30 min. away and has 2 little boys aged 1 and 4 has reached a painful decision this summer to seek a divorce. It is constantly on our minds as we try to help him through such a difficult time. His wife has been so consistently unkind to him and he has tried so hard to make it work. We fully support him in his decision but don't know how it's all going to work out. He is more of a mother to them than his wife is. They are the innocents but he is the persecuted....of course in my mind, he can do no wrong! I realize it can't be totally her fault but I did believe from the outset that they were greatly mis-matched. It's a big worry and heartache.

That's my report for this time.... some good news along with the bad. Will hope that others who check in have more glowing reports! Take care every one. Audrey

[Janet Heath]

Audrey,

It is good to see you post. I agree with you that there isn't the need so much anymore to post for us who have reunited. It would be a shame to loose touch completely as we have helped each other through the good and the bad. Am sorry to hear about your youngest son's pending divorce. Good to hear that your oldest son is coming to see you. Congratulations on the 3rd grandson!

[joycie]

Thanks Janet, I know that you have a busy fall ahead with plans to move to Colorado. How is your husband geting along? Will he be going with you or coming later on? Seems to me, he's expected to go later. Does he require care?

[Janet Heath]

Audrey,

My husband is coming later. He is recovering very nicely. No care is needed. He is on his own.

Thank you for asking.


Janet