[aura]

Thank you everyone, this is my last post for tonight, not that I'm going to sleep and I will let you all know something as soon as I do. You are all so wonderfull and a blessing from above. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you and hopefully I will have some news soon, but if I have to wait I will, I have all of you and a wonderfull family, God is good.

Good Night...Aura

[Isabo]

Aura,

I just read your letter, and it made me cry. It was a beautiful letter. I am sure she will love it.

I can hardly wait to hear what your Sister in Law tells you!! We are all waiting here with you. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[nugget]

Yes!! we're here with you on pins and needles.And I need to thank you for posting about this. It's bringing me back to all of those crazy feelings that I had when I first called my sister. There's just nothing like it at all.
Even my not so good attempts at reunion with other siblings was full of emotions that I would not trade for anything!!
And again, remember to breath!!
Hugs
Wendy

[katnap80]

Aura.... Beautiful letter. I am a Bmom in waiting....so know what you are going thru....
Can't wait to hear about your SIL delivery.....
"K"

[Janet Heath]

Must be missing something. Where do you read the letter?



Janet

[Isabo]

Janet,

Place your cursor over Aura's user name and then left click. This will pull up a menu. At the bottom of the menu it says "Visit Aura's Journal." Click on that option and you will see Aura's letter to her mother.

[aura]

Hey Everyone,

I just heard from my SIL, noone is home so she is going to leave her a note with her contact info and hopefully when she gets home she will call. If she doesn't call, Lori will try to deliver it again tommorow. YIKES!!! I guess we keep waiting and I say we because I know you are all waiting with me. Thank You Everyone!!


Aura

[Isabo]

Aura,

I have been checking my computer every 1/2 hour or so, hoping for good news! All I can say is AAAAHHHHHHHHHH! My son went through the same thing you are going through. He had my home phone number but not my work number. The social worker called my home all day long and finally got me around 9:30 pm. I had unfortunately picked that night to go shopping and run errands after work. The poor boy sat at home by the phone all day. I guess he went crazy. I know I would have.

Your bmom will come home!! And we will all be waiting with you for that to happen.

[MKW]

Aura - that is a beautiful letter - saying exactly what you needed to. I just so hope this woman responds to the message left by your SIL. You must be dying inside. But we are all here, hanging on with you.

MKW

[aura]

Well guys, AAAAAAAAAAUGGGGGGGG!!!
My sister-in-law got a call back and this woman is in her 80's and says that is not her and neither of her two daughters have ever placed a child up for adoption because they were very close. My problem with this whole situation is this... My birthmom was not close to either of her daughters according to my non-id info, this lady is the perfect age to be my b-grandmother and Lori said that when she told her she had info from a young woman who had been adopted and was searching for her b-mom this ladys first response was "Why, What's Wrong". She has 2 daughters but wouldn't say what their names were just that she knew they never gave up a baby for adoption because she was so close to them she would have known. Lori said she was adamant about it, to adamant. Something doesn't feel right about this to me, my gut feeling is there is more than meets the eye. I wonder if her daughter, my b-mom, moved home for a period of time, maybe between marraiges or something because I have two married names, both at this address.
Maybe I'm wrong, I guess time will tell and I will hire a CI to open my records and search for me. My parents next door neighbor works for Lutheran Social Services and has been helping us as much as she can, now I try to get my records open. Lori is going to call me with the name that came up when she called (thank god for caller ID) and we will go from there. This is not what I expected but it's better than some of my worst case scenarios, maybe it isn't her, I wish I could get rid of that gut feeling though.

Not sure what to do,
Aura

[aura]

Hello everyone,

I am much calmer now and have some new info. I had a search angel that helped me before look up the name of the lady that Lori spoke with today( I love caller ID) and she is related to the woman we think is my b-mom. This ladys past addresses trace back to the exact same ones that my b-mom had lived at and it matches the story of my b-mom in my non-id info. I'm not sure if she is my b-grandmas sister or what. My b-moms mom was 37 at the time of my birth (6-13-1972) so she would be in her 70's now, this lady Lori talked to is 82 according to the info I recieved and that matches what she told Lori today. I figure either she is an aunt to my b-mom and may not know she placed a child up for adoption or my b-grandmas age was wrong in my non-id info(maybe she didn't know how old her mom was) and it is my b-grandma. It shows my b-mom lived at this ladies address for a long period of time and had two different last names (Maybe stayed there while going through a divorce or after the death of her husband???). Maybe i'm just grasping at straws but my gut tells me to keep digging here. Hopefully, word will get back to my b-mom that I am searching and she will contact Lori. I sure hope so. Not sure what to do now but wait and see....
Aura

[Isabo]

((((Aura))))

Wow, I saw your post and was SO disappointed for you!! But, I think you are definitely on the right track that this lady is a relative. She may or may not know about your bmom's pregnancy and the adoption. We didn't tell everyone in my family about my pregnancy, and that was in 1979/80. You know, that whole shame thing ... Even if she does know about you, which it sounds like she does from her initial reaction, her response would still be to deny everything. You know, that whole shame thing ... So, there definitely IS hope that you will still locate your bmom in all of this. I don't know if this lady will pass on the information or not though. It is very hard to say. Being of the generation she is, I can see her sitting on it. It never ceases to amaze me how people will make these decisions for other people, but they do.

One of my greatest fears was that my son would search and call my parents home instead of me. I told them over and over that I wanted to be found, but you never know what would have happened if they had actually gotten the call. My older sister's response upon hearing my son found me was of suspicion. "What does he want - is this a scam??? He may take advantage of you." I said "what do you think he wants???" and then told her to shut up and never say that again. What an insensitive and idiotic thing to say!! But, that is my sister and there is no accounting for relatives who feel protective and "mean well."

So ... is there a way to take the info you have and find this woman's daughters and nieces? I also like the idea of you going ahead and hiring a CI if that doesn't work out.

What a bummer! but thank goodness it is probably not a dead end!! I am so sorry that you didn't just find your bmom today though!!

(((((Big Hug)))))

[aura]

Dear Isabo,


I just talked with my SIL and she is going to call this lady tommorow and see if she has a niece or family relative named Virginia that would be about 52 years old. She is going to let her know that my b-moms info keeps coming back to her address and give her both last names and see what happens. I am also going to send my info to the CI at Luthern Social Services.(she is my mom and dad's neighbor and has been helping as much as possible) There is a 3-6 month wait so in that time I will continue searching and pray that if these are the people I think they are that the truth will come out and she will contact me. I thought of her sitting on the info too and I hope not but I also looked up both of my b-moms married names and there is only 11 for both in Montana so I am going to send letters to them asking if they know of a Virginia who would be about the age of 52. I'm just not sure if ai should say why i'm looking for her???? What do you think? I am not giving up!!!
Good night for now and thank you all for your support, keep posting guys, i'm open to suggestions. Aura

[MKW]

First of all, I'm so sorry this woman was not your mom - and that now she seems to have connections and is reluctant to share.
But I very much like the idea of you working with the CI from Lutheran Social Services. That will just make sure everything is right, you have the right person, and things can be handled through an intermediary.
I'm also very glad you're not going to give up!!!

MKW

[aura]

Good Morning everyone,

I have spent most of the morning posting what info I have about b-mom & dad on some of the different forums. I am hoping someone will recognize my b-dads info. All I know is that he was 24 at the time of my birth and living here in Great Falls, Mt., he has blue eyes and completed 9th grade and served 2 years in Vietnam with the United States Army. His father was 55 years old and worked as a railroad policeman for Burlington Railroad here in Great Falls and his mom was 50 years old and worked for Buttreys Grocery Store in the Holiday Village Mall. I know this lady we found is related to my b-mom, my gut won't let it go. My sister in law is going to call her and see if she has a niece named Virginia and let her know that all the info we have is coming back to her address. I guess the worst that can happen is we make her mad. If it is them the CI will find out I guess. If the above info sounds familiar to anyone let me know or if you have any advice on how to look for b-dad with the info that is posted I would appreciate it. I keep hoping that this lady will call SIL back and want to talk or b-mom will call.
Thanks Everyone
Aura