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Originally Posted By Marion

Pls, anyone who are adoptees, I would input how you feel about your bmom, and how do I act towards this suddenly very grown up 'little' girl of mine. She's now 20 years old and somewhat reserved. I am so afraid she'll reject me and sometimes feel uncomfortable talking to her. Is this normal? I have not been able to locate any literature on meetings between bparents and their kids.

Any advice is appreciated...you can email me at taria@hula.net

Thank you much.

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Originally Posted By Christine

Hi Marion;

I am an adoptee who has been in reunion for five years. A bchild has a connection to the bmom that is not understood. Her openess and acceptance will depend on her feelings/dealings with the adoption issue. She may have some resentments and she may not. She may have been dreaming of meeting you for years now. Just make sure that when you speak you are honest, caring and understanding to her and her needs. Because adoptees have feelings of abandonment, some, they often pull back at times; don't read more into it. It is a scarry time filled with many beautiful moments. Enjoy each one and stay on a positive path.

Best wishes to both of you

CS