[SKiefer]

I'm in reunion with my birthmother for almost a year now. Things are going quite well.

However, I felt a little guilty on mother's day because I did not call or even acknowledge her on that day. Some friends gave me the advice of recognizing her on the day of our first contact of reunion (does that make sense?) That day was 07/29 and is quickly approaching.

What do you think? What should I do?

[kersey19]

Go for it! I think recognizing her on the day of your reunion is perfect. I'm sure she will be touched by your gesture.

FYI -- the Saturday before Mother's Day is called BirthMother's Day. It's our day to celebrate.

Don't feel guilty about the lack of contact on Mother's Day -- you need to do what is comfortable for you.

Best wishes with your reunion -- Jill

[Noreen T]

Acknowledging her on the day of your reunion will be a really nice gesture.

Your reunion is still in the very early stages, so resolving all the issues now that you have two moms active in your life, the one who gave you life and the one who raised you will take time.

If you have not already done so I recommend reading Joe Soll's books - Adoption Healing. There is one for adoptees and one for first moms.

Don't sweat the little stuff, it will all work out eventually.

Noreen