[Patty2905]

my son is 16 and i know where he is the aparents and i exchange pictures and letters yearly thats it, i have never seen him since the day i gave him up 16 yrs ago but now i want to go to one of his sports games and see him... and i want to say hi and i love you to him .. and drop him my email address so mabye he will start to think about me more and maybe someday have intrest in me,,as of today the aparents say he knows about me but doesnt ask about me at all... but hes a boy and 16,,, but i dont think i can wait anylonger,,,, should i go see him briefly ??? help email me XXXXX (removed email address)

[Missy M]

Patty...as a b-mom I can understand your desire to reunite. There is absolutely nothing in the world wrong with loving and wanting to meet your son. Its a normal reaction. I don't know the specfic's of your situation but you need to respect whatever agreement you made the day you placed your son. This couple are his parents and he is a minor; something this monumental needs to be done thru them. If your actions are unwelcome they could prohibit you legally from further contact. I say wait until he is 18 before you attempt to contact him or at least IMO you should tell his parents that you are wanting to "meet" him and see how they respond. MissyM

[PurpleMoon]

im 16 and im adopted and im in the process of trying to fine my parents, i have an address just need enough courage to post my letter, anyway my parents dont have any contact with my bparents and i am not including my parent knowledge in my search and as an adopted teenager it is very confusing and painful. i say go for it. i want to know my parents, but everyones different, apporach with caution

[melly711]

I learned who and where my son was when he was 17 1/2. I contacted his bmom first and it took until after he turned 18 to finally get together. I met his parents first and I almost gave up. They told me how he really wasn't interested, was busy with his friends, etc. After meeting him, he began coming over,(he only lived 30 minutes away!) and we got closer and closer. It's been over 2 years now, and he lives with us. He tells me that he has always thought of me...and dreamed of the day he would know me. I have NEVER regretted getting to meet him at such an early age. I can still be such an influence on his life, helping him make decesions, and helping out when he is troubled. I can't imagine what my life would be like without him now. Our love is stronger than I could have ever imagined! My advise to everyone...DO NOT WASTE A MINUTE...time is so precious.