[Alana71]

Wow, isn't life interesting! Now were you referring to the brother you grew up with or the brother you just reunited with?
Looks like you are just helping everyone with their searches.

I have 2 male friends who are adopted and they never expressed any interest in finding out their roots. Since my reunion, they have come to me with questions and asking me to help them facilitate things. I wonder if some men just don't have that strong desire or maybe it's a personality thing.

Imagine if you never started this, look what you would have been missing! "Elizabeth" we would love to hear from you

[lookingfr fam]

Yes, WOW kinda says it all

That is the bfather of my oldest bro. One of the two I was raised with. Our other brother (who we were also raised with) has a different father who happens to be an old friend of the knew found bfather of the oldest bro. Now did I confuse you even more? Believe me I have to keep it all charted out just to keep up with it all!

Our youngest bro (the new one) has no desire to be in contact with his bfather. He actually had custody of them for awhile and abused them pretty bad until the courts took them away.

Yes, I agree, males just deal with all this differently! From what I can tell they want to "know" but don't want to take the steps to find out. Too much work perhaps. We women are used to this sort of thing and I also believe women are more"intune" to family matters. Whatever the reason it seems more women than man actually go searching.

I am really glad I began the search AND followed through! It's been a long, emotional road, but one well worth the journey!

I also get as much satisfaction out of helping people on the boards find their families too. It's a lot of fun for me.

Shannon

[lookingfr fam]

Hi All~

Another update~

Freind is now losing it!!!! She's fed up with the wait! The brother who called her has not called back yet and she does not know if he's already contacted the other siblings. She does not know what to do and quite honestly, I just want slap them all silly! I know they have their own issues in dealing with this, but ALL I care about is HER!!! I feel like they are toying with her emotions! I know they prob don't realize this and Im biting my tounge....but come on give the poor girl a break!

She finally posted though

under making contact:

Please HELP, I am going crazy!, cfennie is her user name!

Shannon

[Alana71]

Hi Shannon,

What's wrong with these people? I've been following some other threads where the birthmom's are waiting for replies from their bchildren and it's just not happening. I'ts not fair for someone to be left hanging like that. At least show some courtesy with any answer so the person isn't left wondering! I sure hope in her case that bmom didn't put a damper on it.

I'll have to go check out her thread.


~Alana