[DanB01]

Well, through a strange series of events, I accidentally located my birthmother after 37 years. I can relate them later. I've sent her a letter, it arrived today and I'm anxiously awaiting some sort of communication from her.

However, that's not what my question is about.

I want to know how others handled telling their adoptive parents? When I told my Amom that I had gotten the non-id info several years ago, she wasn't happy at all. She didn't really say anything, just clammed up about it.

Now, 10 years later, I am sitting on this news that I'd love to share with my Aparents. I want them to be happy for me, but I don't know the best way to approach them.

Any advice would be very much apprecitated.

TIA

[eek40]

Dan,
I know just how you feel. My adad has never understood my reasons for my search , he always supported it but just "didnt get it" When I found in Feb. this year I was worried about him. I left out some of the details in my finding her like the fact that my step-mom paid for the search for me. But once I told him he was fine with it...he still doesnt get it, but most people that grew up knowing their gentic family dont get it. They dont understand the holes in our lives. They cant understand how important it is for us to see someone we look like! My amom...I am still worried about her in all this. I refuse to feel guilty because this is something I have wanted for as long as I can remember. But she is fragile and tends to make everything about her. I am pretty good at steering away from those issues when they pop up. Never the less she is handling this remarkably well. She even surprised me by talking to my bmom on the phone once. I was really worried searching about my aparents thoughts. I dont know if I am really giving you a bunch of help here..but I totally see where you are coming from. If you ever want to talk you can email me or pm me!
Aimee