[aacaboo]

My daughter recently found me, well she called I wrote first and we've been chatting on the phone, email and all of the kids are getting to know one another. The problem is my mother...she claims she doesn't remember me having a child when I was almost 17 and yesterday she changed the subject as soon as i mentioned my daughter.......I hope she comes around. How can she not remember she made me go away to have the baby so I wouldn't embarass her.

[Debbie C]

It's called denial! She doesn't want to be responsible for you having to give up your child (and her grandchild). I don't know how long ago this was, but years ago there was a stigma about "unwed mothers". I was stuck with it too. I recently had contact with my bdaughter after 28 years. It's a wonderful thing! If your mom chooses not to remember, then that's the way it is. Enjoy your daughter and let nothing stand in the way of you having a relationship with her.

Debbie C.

[aacaboo]

oh nothing's going to stand in my way. This was 32 years ago and the stigma.......whoa. I wonder sometimes how we birthmom ever made it this far.
Thanks~
sharon

[snuffie]

Congratulations on your reunion!!
Maybe your mother is in denial or maybe she has a disease not diagnosed yet that would make her forget. my a mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease. But it took many years to get this diagnosis. She would forget little things (like we all do) at first so it was very hard to know that she really had a bigger problem.

Best wishes to you and your daughter.
Hugs
Snuffie