[debsdone]

OMG, I almost wet my pants! TOO funny. (sadly, too true) Debi
Radio Doll, you could be, go, anywhere! Hey, come here! Seeing as both my a-mom and b-mom have dementia, we could pass you off and nobody would be the wiser! (no offense to dementia, just keepin' it light) Love ya!

[radiodoll]

Hey - this getting better all of the time! I've gotten 3 great offers to join other member's families!!! Wow. Perhaps we should do a raffle or something.

I have to tell ya, though the one out in front of the race is the PM that would get me "connected"....if ya know what I mean. I like the idea of driving "shotgun" right about now.

I'll check in on you all from time to time. Thanks for being such great cyberbuddies.

I'm STILL pondering the IVY RACECAR. lololololololololo
Doilies for the mag wheel covers............


much love and blessings to all -

Radiodoll

[Just Julie]

Missy and Radiodoll,

Get your act together and out on the road! You two are hilarious!

[Blue Irish Eyes]

Radio,
Oh Poop...( can one say poop here )

Wish your story was among the happy stories around these here parts with at least some sort of communication. I know how you must be feeling. I have been doing a search too and so far the bmom has not responded at all, not even to say she is not interested. Tis a bummer. BUT.... your humor and outlook is going to get you through this... I think you ought to put together a book or something...You have a quick wit!!!!! What you didn't get from you know who...you got from "the stupid thing" and hay..you sound pretty good to me....maybe just maybe YOU got lucky and any other kids she had didn't! Keep the Faith, Baby!

[Dragonfly82]

I say we all get together, go over there and kick her husband's BUTT . . . give him a piece of our minds . . . THEN drag HER BUTT outta there and knock some sense into her too!

WAIT! That's illegal, isn't it? Okay, not that it would solve anything either . . .

It's just . . . the more I think about this 'man' having that kind of control . . . the more I think about the 'shame' that your bmother might have accepted for herself (is this type of 'man' all she felt worthy of . . . after all was said and done?) Maybe I'm thinking about some of the men from MY past that tried to make ME feel 'shameful' . . . the same type of controlling men that would have tried pulling that 'we'll never speak of it again' crap . . . had I not felt worthy enough to say 'Hey, you know what . . . %$#*@ you, if you don't support me . . . you don't love me and walk away!!!'

Now I'm mad again . . . let's go kick his BUTT and drag her outta there!!

Seriously, I hoped for a better 'closure' for you Radio . . . just wanted to let you know that I'd be willing to 'kick butt' for you Also, here if you need to talk

[debsdone]

Just a thought........

Radio doll, you said your b-mom wouldn't have excepted you, right? But if she is the type of woman who would allow this crap from a man, ..would you really be able to have a relationship with HER? I would go NUTS. Even if any of my girlfriends say "Gee, I don't know, I'll have to ask so and so" when we talk about a movie I say "EXCUSE ME?" But I am just nasty that way! My b-mom seems like the kinda gal who never took any garbage from anyone, and I LIKE that! Not exactly Betty Crocker, but I wouldn't know what to do with her either! I think you are better off without this nonsense! Love, Debi

[bajohnson]

Debi,
Well put! The same thoughts crossed my mind, and then they just kept going!LOL.
Hang in there radio!
Hugs,
Beth

Radio doll,

I find it hard to believe that someone with your apparent self confidence and strength would come from someone that wimpy. I have thought about this and there could be a number of scenarios.

1. She is still a women of her generation, they used husbands as an excuse quite alot to not deal with things they didn't like to deal with. She may not be ready to deal with this....but she may in the future.

2.Maybe any strength she had has been knocked out of her...unfortuantly the issue of abuse may be present. Maybe verbal abuse "your lucky I married you" type theme, maybe lived in fear all her life. I have known women who were seemly very strong but that one man still managed to make them cower.

3. Maybe you got your strenth from bfathers side or your adopted family and she IS that wimpy. I don't know but i am sure it hurts anyway, whatever the reason may be.

Donna

P.S. memba ima connected....actually did the irish mob talk that way? lol

P.S.S. To all of you I told radio doll that in my trip to Georgia last week I found out that I had a" gangsta grampa" lol I still giggle about it because I am 'pretty" straight and narrow!

[shirleyville]

Just had to smile at the "gangsta" connection.....
My birthfamily, on my mom's side, were the famous "Reno Gang" who orchestrated the first ever train robbery....written up in all the books as the most infamous and ruthless gang of their time!
Makes me laugh!!
Hugs, from one "gangsta" to anotha!
Sally

[sal]

I found a quote that I feel relates pretty well to these postings.. Family is who I love and who loves me.....After finding this I reexamined my life.....with aparents, with best friend's families, with bparents.....and I can say that in all of them I have found people that I love and who love me......I found myself getting hung up on the labels of these families at first.....and after my reunion....guess that for me it's been easier to realize the love I feel and the love that I give.....it really doesn't matter what label I put on them now....does that make any sense?.....

[radiodoll]

Sal - I have always tried to apply that philosophy to my life. It good to remember that people love me. GOOD PEOPLE whom I repsect and cherish.

To the rest of you - THANK GOD I'M NOT ON PAROLE. I'm hangin' out with the "Felon Family". That should be the surname to use when in doubt, don't cha think?

"Hi, I'm Janet Felon... these are my friends - Donna Felon, Barbara Felon, Sally Felon."

Of course that would make my mother "Helen Felon"....kinda catchy, don't cha think? Like the Farkels on saturday Night Live (oooppppss....dating myself.)


Did you guys watch Dateline last night with that guy who found out he's not who he thought he was???? It was creepy. Made me glad I'm not with Helen & "Bubba."

Ya know, It's very cool that he's a Farmer. But it's not cool that he's a jerk. How do my sisters STAND it?

Dragonfly - thank you for offering to kick butt for me. I can't tell you how special that feels. I can now tell people, "cut it out or I'll sic my Dragonfly on you." That is definately something I would never have thought I'd be able to say.

I LOVE YOU SICK AND SUFFERING PEOPLE.

Radio doll you are too funny LOL!!!! I don't know about the rest of the felon family but I will tell ya at the first sign of trouble I am usually the one that runs like hell....then will wet my pants in fright!!! So I don't think I have inherited any "mobster traits!

How bout you Sally, have you jumped any trains lately?!?! HEHEHE

[Mary RamireZ]

so ,. your birthmother has been married 48 years. I wonder if her husband is has abused her and is a control freck? since men most die first me be you need to wait husband to die. I was abused wife and I can under stand how one falls in to that trap. Iam just puting in my to cent as a birthmother.


Mary Mumby Ramirez