[Debbie C]

The following is an e-mail I recieved from my birth daughter's MOM. Yes, her MOM.....like the old saying goes, "any woman can be a mother, it takes someone special to be a mom..."

Hi, Debbie, thanks for the e-mail. I liked meeting you on Katie's birthday. It is amazing the similarities in looks and personality. Katie and I have been through some tough times together and apart. I think it is good the two of you have met. I want to thank you for letting me have her in my life."

I met my birth daughter last week after 28 years. We spent her 28th birthday together, with the rest of her family. It was a wonderful experience but not something I thought about every day. Yes, I loved her, but I also had a family apart from her. She has now become a very integral part of my life and will always be there.

Good luck to all of you who haven't reunited yet. Be patient and compassionate. Your child has gone through a lot too.

[LIR - NFL]

Debbie C, I am happy to read another story about a bthmother and admother are nice to each other. Thats how it should be I think both respecting each other.

[RaychieR]

When I spoke with my bmom, she told me that she didn't think about me all the time. She left California (where I was born) and went back to her home state within a week of my birth. She said she knew in order to move on with her life that she had to leave me and the whole situation behind. She said there were times during the years when she forgot when my birthday was, but when that day came along, she always knew that was it. But basically she devoted her time and energy to her husband and sons, but I know she never completely forgot me.

I appreciate that she was so honest with me and I think it helps me to understand things better.

I agree with Debbie C - be patient and compassionate. Also be open-minded. You may not hear what you want to hear. But if what you are hear is the truth, I think that's what many of us have been seeking.