[TUgirl083184]

I just talked to my bmom for the first time last night. What can I say to her? I don't know what to say. HELP!

[sspete]

Hi tugirl--I am a bmom who is recently reunited with my bdaughter! It is a very neat experience to be able to talk to her via e-mail. This is the only communication we have had, but it was great just to "hear" anything from her. I can tell you from a bmoms point of view you don't have to say much, and she will be thrilled. Anything and everything there is to tell her about yourself would be great. Reunions take time--so don't rush. The two of you will be beginning a relationship, and like any new relationship with time you can share more and more with each other. Do you feel good about the reunion? Who initiated contact? In the meantime just relax and enjoy one another. Blessing to both of you as you begin this journey!

[jmisaacs2003]

I would probably go easy for awhile. Find out her likes and dislikes, where she likes to go, what kind of job she does. Very general stuff. Just start learning about each other. When you feel more comfortable you can probably ask the tougher questions. Good Luck!! Take Care!!

[BobbyTC]

TUGirl,
I have just recently met my birthdaughter. She contacted me via e-mail. We exchanged a few e-mails then we talked on the phone. The conversation lasted 30 minutes. I've never had a phone conversation that long in my life. You'd be surprised how easy it was to talk to her. I have met her twice and the conversation flows well. I suspect there are a million things your birth mother wants to say to you. I am sure she has thought about this meeting for many years. Say what's in your heart and so will she. You're in for a wonderful experience. I wish you all the best.
Bobby