[SRODRIGUEZ]

My question is for all you birthmoms from the 1960's.

I am a 44 yr old female adoptee from Az. I have some info on my birthmom whom I have been trying to locate for along time. I did locate a sister whom I have had contact with on and off but don't get any information from regarding her sister. My question is how can I ask my birth-aunt information regarding my birthmom. When I was 18 this birth-aunt was so excited to hear from me and over the years I quit calling because I wasn't getting the answers I wanted. Since last year I re-connected with this birth-aunt for medical reasons and when I called the first words out of her mouth were"I haven't spoken to my sister in along time". I didn't want it seem like that was my purpose for calling. I am so afraid to ask anymore about my birthmom cause I am afraid what she will say. My birth-aunt is unsure about meeting me because she says it is weird. How can I call her one more time without making her feel like I am prying into her families life? I think I am a secrect and know one knows about me including birthmom's family. I need some good solid advice from some birthmoms. Thanks

[teacher22]

SRODRIGUEZ

I think you should try to call again and say that you would like some help trying to contact your birthmom and ask if your birthaunt has any suggestions about how to contact her. Tell her up front that you are not trying to pry but you just want to have contact. Hang in there! It takes TIME for everyone to process their feelings.

=) H

[SRODRIGUEZ]

Thank-you for the reply and quick advice. I have waited so long and prayed that one day I will be able to meet my birthmom. I know my birth-aunt knows the truth and how to contact her sister but she just isn't going out of her way to help me. She answers little questions but never speaks of her sister. Thanks again.

[barbie12]

I know how difficult it is..waiting and hoping....i think i would be open and say to the aunt i would like to meet my mom is there a reason i should or should not and can you assist...

[SRODRIGUEZ]

Thank-you for the advice. This is truly a great website but looking at how many views everyone gets there is very little replies. I know there are many people like myself who need advice so come on all you viewers share the love and help out those in need,

[firstmom47]

Definitely ask for her help, but make sure she knows you don't want to cause trouble. She may or may NOT know how her sister feels! Families often don't share on this topic. Anything she may assume about the other person may not be accurate.