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08-13-2008, 03:58 PM
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Do I Make Contact?
I am 39 years old. I found my bio mom when I was 17...twenty two years ago who denied she even gave birth to me. At that time, I met my bio sister 2 years older than me who confimed along with 2 bio aunts I was her child. I found out I had a biological brother and was never was in contact with him. I have no idea if he knows I exist. I have had no further contact with the family since then and don't know if they would even want to re-establish contact. I no longer know how to get in touch with them. But my real dilemma is: Found my biological brother's profile on Classmates.com. I want to contact him, but the initial rejection at 17 is still painful to think about and I don't know if emotionally I could handle another rejection.
What if he has no idea I existed? A sister at 38? Why invest time, why even believe it? I don't know what I should do. Suzi 
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08-13-2008, 04:00 PM
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Is he in contact with the aunts and sister? If so, they could confirm you are who you are. If I had a sibling out there, I would want to know! I would welcome contact. Good luck in whatever you choose to do! I really hope it all works out great.
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08-13-2008, 04:02 PM
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I am sure he is still in contact with them.
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08-13-2008, 07:59 PM
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In my opinion you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. I know the fear of rejection is a powerful distraction but since it is already with you why not face it and know for sure? JMO...Best wishes! Tracy
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08-13-2008, 09:29 PM
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imho
you should reach out and try, preparing yourself in advance for any outcome. why? because you have an invisible bond with this man, which is it natural and healty to try to pursue when possible. because you have a RIGHT to want to know him, even if he is unable or unwilling to respond. i don't blame you for feeling afraid after what happened with your bmother, but it seems that this must be something important or it would be easy to just "forget about it" and go on with your life. at the very least, you deserve a chance to see if you can make a connection with this man, your birth father. best of luck to you keep us posted
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08-14-2008, 09:43 AM
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I think I would get some counseling around this issue, and have that support in place prior to and during the time of contact. This way, if the rejection does come up, you can work through it in therapy.
I know it's a huge risk, but the way I see it, nothing ventured, nothing gained.
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