[escottswanson]

wow that's exciting!! congrats

[curiositykitten]

As of today I still haven't heard anything. I'm just hoping that it's taking her time to collect her thoughts and that she hasn't changed her mind. I never realized that a person could feel so anxious in their entire life.

I gave an email address and a mailing address, I definately don't want to call yet and seem stalkerish anxious.

Here's hoping to news soon!

[bprice215]

Congradulations are in order, may your reunion be all you hope for, for both of you. Peace to both of you.
bprice215

[amandalynn88]

Wow that's really great, I hope it all goes well for you. I'd like to say thanks because reading your post gave me some ideas about contacting my bparents, like setting up a PO and sending certified, etc. because I'm in a similar situation where I have some addresses and numbers but I don't want to call and surprise anyone.

Anyway, best of luck and have a nice day.

[curiositykitten]

I just wanted to update. I got an email today from my birth mother. It was very touching and nice. She said that she's kept a scrap bookfor me all these years and if I want it she'd be happy to give it to me.

It's all overwhelming but seems really good. I'm nervous and exciting to be starting this new part of my life!

[curiositykitten]

Originally Posted by amandalynn88

Wow that's really great, I hope it all goes well for you. I'd like to say thanks because reading your post gave me some ideas about contacting my bparents, like setting up a PO and sending certified, etc. because I'm in a similar situation where I have some addresses and numbers but I don't want to call and surprise anyone.

Anyway, best of luck and have a nice day.

Thanks for the good wishes.

A PO box from my local PO was very affordable too. I only took the smallest size but it was $40 for the year. It made me feel a little better to be careful when I started out because I really didn't want to give anyone a shock or suprise.

[Scatterbrain]

Congratulations!!! Such good news!

[susanasully]

Wow, you must feel anxious, excited, hopeful, terrified, thrilled.. all at the same time.

Reading your post brought back the feelings I experienced while waiting fro my BMom to reply to my letter to her.

Just to give you some perspective, when my BMom received my letter, she had to:
1. Get over the shock herself
2. Tell her husband about what happened to her and that I existed
3. Get him to talk to her again after 3 days of silence
4. Figure out a plan to address my letter
5. Actually sit down and write a letter and mail it to me.

Not easy stuff... but it was all worth it in the end. So hang in there and try to always put yourself in her shoes when she says or does something you don't understand... like not remember the date of your birthday, or not seem as affectionate as you expected. It's quite common and normal. I hope it works out positively for you and your family.

I remember feeling similar to the feeling you get when you meet a great guy and you're anxiously awaiting his phone call to see if he'll ask you out again.. haha

[curiositykitten]

Originally Posted by susanasully

Wow, you must feel anxious, excited, hopeful, terrified, thrilled.. all at the same time.

Reading your post brought back the feelings I experienced while waiting fro my BMom to reply to my letter to her.

Just to give you some perspective, when my BMom received my letter, she had to:
1. Get over the shock herself
2. Tell her husband about what happened to her and that I existed
3. Get him to talk to her again after 3 days of silence
4. Figure out a plan to address my letter
5. Actually sit down and write a letter and mail it to me.

Not easy stuff... but it was all worth it in the end. So hang in there and try to always put yourself in her shoes when she says or does something you don't understand... like not remember the date of your birthday, or not seem as affectionate as you expected. It's quite common and normal. I hope it works out positively for you and your family.

I remember feeling similar to the feeling you get when you meet a great guy and you're anxiously awaiting his phone call to see if he'll ask you out again.. haha

It's so funny that you mentioned it being similar when you're waiting to get a call back from that great guy. I was thinking just the same thing earlier in the week! It is how it feels.

I'm not sure but I don't believe my biological mom is married at this point in time but I do know she has another child and I'm unsure if that child even knows about me.

I'm glad I did send a letter first because I think that was a better idea than just calling directly. You never know what a surprise like that can do!

I'm going to email her back tonight, I too, have been having trouble figuring out what to say, and how to say it so I don't hurt anyones feelings. My aparents, are my parents, but I don't want to hurt anyone by saying 'my parents' depending on how my bio mom feels.

It's tough but in the end I'm hoping that it will be worth is as much as I think it will be!

[kelceesmom]

Congratulations on making contact. That is a huge a step for all of you. I'm sure there will be frustrations along with the happiness.

[curiositykitten]

I emailed back on Sunday and I haven't heard anything yet. I didn't imagine that I would feel so anxious about things and wondering weird things like "Did I say something that could have been hurtful in my email?"

I'm only three or so weeks in so far and sometimes I think I'm overthinking things and making myself nuts.

I guess that this is to be expected but I'm a little suprised at how everything is affecting me.

[snuffie]

Oh, I can relate to the anxiety! For a while after reunion, I'd "critique" my own phone conversations with my bfamily. It took me a while to realize that all of that was not only making me a bit crazy but also taking away from the joy I was feeling.

You sound like a very conscientious person and there is probably a zero chance that you would say a hurtful thing to anyone! I know I would try to second guess what my family was thinking too - but we never really can know what is in another's mind. And I also realized that they may have been feeling the same things I was feeling!

It's not unusual to go for days or even weeks without contact. I've been in reunion for 7 years and we sometimes go for quite a while without hearing from one another. It's become a much more "normal" way of doing things.

All of the happiness in the world on your reunion!

Snuffie

[curiositykitten]

Thank you so much.

In her email she gave me her phone number and said to call her anytime for as long as I want to call herI just feel weird about calling. I don't think there's a logical reason but I do.

I'm thinking that if I don't hear something by the end of the week maybe at the beginning of the week I'll actually get up the nerve to make a phone call.

[longingtomeetyou]

thats so exciting
i hope to hear more from you

[curiositykitten]

Well it looks like I'm going to make that call sooner than I thought.

I found out from my doctor yesterday I might have to have some surgery (just a one night stay over type) and he asked me a whole bunch of questions about family history. Since I've never had surgery before myself I didn't know how to answer things like 'adverse effects to anestetic, bleeding disorders' ect.

I guess I'm going to get the nerve up by tomorrow and make that phone call because I'm going for some more tests this week.

Let's hope I don't loose my nerve!