[sweetpea012607]

We've been emailing back and forth, and yesterday he emailed me and asked me if I wanted to be his.
I told him that I really wanted sisters and a big family, but I wanted to know what he thought.
So he emailed me back and said that unless I need further proof that I am his... so I'm just getting more and more confused.

[snuffie]

Sounds like bdad may have been thinking things over and his initial "could be the other guy" may have been just a panic reaction like with my "suspected" bdad.
Have you seen photos? Do you look like him? Do you feel you need concrete proof?

Oh, it is all so confusing and now that he's put that little piece of doubt in your mind how do you get rid of it? I guess a DNA test would be an answer.

Snuffie

[sweetpea012607]

I don't look much like him at all, but he says I look more like my b-mom. I've now seen pictures of all three of his daughters, and the youngest and I have the most in common. She's 9. She's got the same build I had at that age with blue eyes. Then my 10 year old sister has glasses like I do. And my 22 year old sister has more of the same hair color. So it's like I'm a mixture of all...
I don't want to doubt that he's my b-dad, because I want him to be.
I just still don't know

[rainmon]

Sweetpea, sounds like he is reaching out to you....
I'm very happy for you. its nice to have a little sunshine after all the rain Huh?
Have you found a support group yet? it will be nice for you to talk to others that have similar stories...so you can get it all out there when you need to ....
and still have special times with your new families that can be happier times.

[sweetpea012607]

No, I haven't found a support group. My counselor says that there are quite a few people who are adopted but there's not really a group for it. I think I'm going to ask him next time if there's a way one can be started.

[rainmon]

I had meant a support group for the other recent things in your life that have affected you.
and still are.
it could really help you, to connect with those types of groups.

[sweetpea012607]

I've looked and I still haven't found any groups like that near here. I mean, I know that there are things for people with chronic illnesses and AA, but I've never seen anything for the other stuff...

[rainmon]

Sweetpea, the month of April is national rape awareness month "everywhere" and there are going to be lots of conferences, workshops, etc...throughout April going on all over.
to connect to it in your area, go to a search engine on your computer and type in: "Take back the night"
that is the name of the organization that can help you. they are a national group and you can find one near you for "support groups" and that also go on year round. hope this helps.

[sweetpea012607]

thanks rainmom!

I had no idea that this month was national rape awareness month.

I knew it was childabuse awareness in the state of North Carolina but beyond that, I had no clue.

[sweetpea012607]

I went to the website, but everywhere I turned it gave me a hotline to call. I don't want to call a holine, I want to find a real group.

[RavenSong]

SweetPea, if you call the hotline number, they can probably direct you to a support group in your local area. Most crisis hotlines keep tabs of all available resources in towns and cities throughout the entire country. If you just tell them what you're looking for, they may very well be able to help you. It wouldn't hurt to call, especially since the phone call is free.

[sweetpea012607]

that's the only problem, making the phone call.

I have this insane fear of talking to people I don't know over the phone. I just sort of sit there and hold the phone to my ear and not speak unless asked a question.

[bprice215]

Well I am the father of my daughter there is no question about it. I say good luck and try not be hard on your bmom, maybe she really thought he was the father, and maybe he is. Hang in there, relax, take a deep breathe, your about to find out.
bprice215

[sweetpea012607]

I have my sister's bridal shower to go to this weekend, and I've never been to one before. Can anyone tell me what they are like??