[belleinblue1978]

Well I got brave this weekend and sent a letter to my older brother. He is a year older than me and I met him once about four years. I tried to continue communication and heard nothing from him even though he was more gung ho than I was for a reunion. I was really hurt and it took me a LONG time to get past that. I've moved since I last wrote him so I just wrote a chatty letter telling him where I am and letting him know that if he wasn't interested in contact if any of our other siblings were I'd like him to pass my information on. (I'm the youngest of six and all of my older siblings are full siblings.)

Yes I have tried contacting M but she wouldn't even write me a letter. I can't set myself up for that kind of rejection again. Yes I have considered all of her feelings, I'm sure I've processed many similiar ones myself. I just can't reconcile the fact that she couldn't even write a letter saying she wasn't interested.

I'm anxious to see if B calls or writes, but not going to get my hopes up too high.

[RavenSong]

Belle, I just wanted to wish you luck. I do hope your brother writes you back. I know it took a lot of courage to send him that letter. Good thoughts coming your way!!

[Jackiejdajda]

I am sending a hope as well.. I hope you are contacted and I wish you were in contact with your birthmom..

I can not imagine how hard this must be..

Jackie

[Oceans]

Belle - I'm keeping everything crossed for you too... Time has a way of changing people - or at least mellowing them. I hope he contacts you soon!! ((Hugs!!))

[belleinblue1978]

Well, after avoding my mail for about a week... I went and checked... nothing but a bill for my furnace.... ugh, I hate this.

[snuffie]

Oh, ya. I can relate. The mail can hold a miracle or be our biggest frustration. I never realized the mailman would be so important in my life!

Guys are notorious for not writing or even phoning so I would give him some more time. Do you have his phone number? As my brothers say, they are not good at key boarding and talking on the phone is easier.
Maybe you could wait a while and then just call and say "hi" - keep it very "light" and kind of get the feel of things?

[belleinblue1978]

Been there done that, not going down that road again... I have tried repeatedly with these people and quite frankly, I'm done. I realize guys aren't good at contact, but I deserve better than this.